You Are What you Think, Careful what you think of!

Some people have issues visualizing themselves being successful, they just like to watch successful people, envy them, but they can’t simply see themselves in their shoe. This has got to be one of the most important obstacles there is to becoming successful!

Doing some Reality Checks, and in particular when we start looking at what we say TO ourselves everyday, chances are high we will notice the huge amount of NEGATIVITY that flies all around our thoughts; a Big number of “I Don’t , I Can’t, I Shouldn’t, NO, Not, DON’T… ”

Just do this small experiment for me now, Open your inbox, pull of All the emails you’ve sent in 2013, and look up if you ever used “Remember to send me…” instead of “Don’t Forget to send me…” it’s this small change that you will do on purpose that will flood all of your life with Positive!

I was giving a Seminar on how to Set & Execute Goals the other day, and I gave an example, of the Walls that we put before ourselves; those same walls that prevent us from moving forward towards our goals… and the First Wall, is your own inventory of yourself! and the Very FIRST common Wall, is saying “I Don’t Have enough money” instead of saying “I Do Have Will Power”, is saying “I Don’t Have the right Tools” instead of saying “I Do Have good Health, and I Do have Faith in myself… I’m on my way 🙂 ”

Randy Pauch: What Time do you CLOSE?

Disneyland Representative: We’re OPEN until 8:00 PM

This week’s Tip, is simply about you changing your attitude about yourself starting by changing the vocabulary you use everyday.

  • Start Substituting: The I with the YOU or the We, the “Don’t Forget” by “Please Remember”, the “I Don’t have” with “I Do have “
  • Think Positively: You see positive thinking may not make the impossible possible and it’s a fact, but it surely helps you MORE than Negative thinking would.
  • Remember: YOU ARE YOUR MOST VALUABLE ASSET… TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF!

Happy New Year!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

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The Day Your World Stood Still

One More week till the end of the year, and you need to take at least ONE day of it to do this week’s Tip!

The Beauty of the world is that it doesn’t STOP moving no matter how you decide to live, it just doesn’t wait for you to be satisfied with your decisions, or even gives you a break to catch up with what’s happening around you 🙂 .

In our best efforts to reduce the speed of time, we need to acknowledge that we shall never succeed, cause the same 24 hours a day / 7 days  a week were given to both you, and Albert Einstein; to you and to everyone else…

This week’s Tip, is about how to Race against Time, by Stopping for a day… And during the day where your World Will Stand Still here’s what you need to do:

  1. Stop Looking forward: Don’t worry about the Future during that day… You had and will have 364 other days to do so
  2. Reflect: In order to excel in almost anything, you need to take a look back and reflect on what happened during your life (both short term and long term)
  3. Evaluate: Both Good Things and Bad things need to be evaluated, you see some good things brought bad things along, and several bad things led to great things… so Evaluate the Good & Bad..
  4. Appreciate: The person you have become TODAY… The sum of the events that you lived have led to this day, to this person you’re seeing in the mirror… Whether you liked that person or not… it doesn’t matter Today… It’s Who you are! and while Your World is Standing Still… Take a deep breath, count your blessings and realize that YOU hold the key to your Tomorrow! and no one else.

I normally do this trick, on the 31st of December… It takes me usually 1 hour during that day… And during that day… During that Hour, I really don’t care about what the next day will bring cause  I will deal with it later on… Only today, it’s all about Me, Myself and My World!

Cheers!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

2 Can Win That Game

“What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?”  ― George Eliot

In the beginning, lots of people’s definition of Winning had to include the lost of their opponent. But the more we progressed in life, we learned that sometimes winning doesn’t necessarily mean that another party need to lose.

The Concept of Win-Win, has always been the core symbol of a Partnership, and probably the biggest example of partnerships would be the marriage institute, as you would realize that at some point in time, several things in life were not designed to be experienced or even enjoyed as a single individual but more of a couple (and later on more).

This week’s Tip, is about Opening up to the idea of Win-Win, and play a game where the 2 players work together with a common goal that would benefit them both, and that efforts exercised from each, fall in the best interest of the two of them.

I’ve read in so many books about this, and probably the most famous was the masterpiece of Dr. Stephen Covey, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” / Habit 4: Think Win-Win; and I Quote:

Think Win-Win isn’t about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration.

Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying. We both get to eat the pie, and it tastes pretty darn good!

So here’s what you can do to make your upcoming year 2014 an even more successful and beneficial one…

That Simple: Think Win-Win

  • Look up for potential opportunities to collaborate and cooperate, and the key here is to really OPEN up to that idea
  • Have ambitious common goals… if you were aiming at making 1,000$  alone, now plan to make 2500$
  • Periodically review & evaluate the Win-Win Strategy, and fine tune it as needed… Your strategy is as strong as its weakest link and will fall the minute one of you starts losing interest, and therefore it’s important to make sure everything is still going smoothly

Have a Great Week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

It’s not what you say… it’s what people hear

In my many years of public speaking, I’ve spoken before dozens, hundreds and even thousands of people… And believe me the biggest rule I learned… Was that it really didn’t matter what I was saying, but the most important was how people were digesting my speech.

On your way to becoming a public speaker, (even if you will only do that in one dinner and that’s it 🙂 ), you will face a time where you will be deceived by your own Ego… That day when you think that your joke was funny, your shower voice is amazing and your speech is brilliant… Just because your own ear liked it!

Well, reality is a bit different… Some of us do sound HORRIBLE… and could be bad in telling jokes and their way of telling their own story is painful to bare…

So the tip for this week, is to focus on how the others would receive you…

  1. Listen to your own voice: and I don’t mean in the Shower 🙂 … Just Record yourself talking and then replay it and listen to what you really sound like! (I’ve met so many who had no idea how did they sounded like in real life, that was priceless in the early days of Video Cameras.)
  2.  Try to get constructive feedback: some people speak fast, some are LOUD and some are low… and most of us, sometimes have a FAN word, (that you keep repeating it every 4-5 words)… Now chances are that you wouldn’t notice it on your own, so seek constructive feedback… and believe me, you need to ENCOURAGE people to give you feedback… and embrace the negative
  3. Master the 3Ps: Prepare what you want to say, Practice how you want to say it, and then Perform.

And finally remember this: Just because it makes sense to you, doesn’t mean that it does for the others.

Have a nice week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Don’t send your Ducks to Eagle School

“Don’t Send your Ducks to Eagle School” – Jim Rohn

The first rule of management is this: Don’t send your ducks to eagle school. Why? Because it won’t work. Good people are found, not changed. They can change themselves, but you can’t change them. If you want good people, you have to find them. If you want motivated people, you have to find them, not motivate them.

My first hearing of this lecture from Jim, I have already been walking a long way in the wrong direction; I was in a senior management position at a very young age (25 yrs old), with high expectations from everyone and a big responsibility, most importantly I had to grow people, who were… Well, already older than me :).

When you are young, your really want everything to happen very fast; Think about when you were at school, you couldn’t wait till you go to college and then to graduate… And years down the road, you will look back and wish you could go back to those old days.

You see, every single phase of someone’s life, is significant in their overall life span, and skipping steps trying to mess with the equilibrium of their development is un-healthy (Leaping Forward  – which is a concept in strategy – by the way is different than Skipping steps) 

I once seen an optical illusion, that was part of an interesting experiment, they showed the same photo to a child, and to an adult… The photo had  dolphins jumping out of the water, and at the same time (from a different perspective) you can see 2 adults making love. The Child Only Saw the Dolphins!

Sometimes, it’s not the Right time for someone to SEE something… Just like it’s not the right time for them to take a new responsibility or a new role… and forcing them to do so, Will Only make things worse.

If you send your ducks to eagle school:

  • You will frustrate the ducks
  • You will frustrate the eagles
  • You will frustrate yourself

The tip for this week, is to ASPIRE your employees the same way you would do for your children.

  • Lend your sight: A child cannot see himself growing up and becoming successful, you need to have your children borrow your sight of them growing up…
  • Share your vision: An employee would look at you as a manager to get inspired to do great things… Share your vision and Help them ASPIRE success.
  • Give enough time: you cannot force a plant to grow by filling it with more water everyday! it’s just not possible and the result will be horrible.

Have a great week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project