How to quit bad habits? Replace them with good ones!

I guess each of us at some point in time, take some decisions on quitting some habits that we don’t fancy or think they are bad for us… Some of the most popular items on that list would be: Smoking, Drinking, Eating Fast food or even cursing and saying bad words.

I was talking to a friend the other day, and we were discussing quitting smoking; She wants to quit smoking because she is convinced that it’s affecting her health negatively and wanted to ask me for opinion on how to do that.

Although admitting there’s a problem is always the right first step towards solving it, having the WILL to do changes in your life is easier said than done.

This week’s tip, is about how to set a “change” goal and work towards achieving it….

First here’s something to think about: If you’re a smoker of 20 cigarettes per day, and it was the time of your regular cigarette and you suddenly received a phone call or bumped into a friend, it’s very likely you would choose to drop that cigarette for the sake of taking that call or talking to the friend. But let’s say that you only had One Cigarette left… and you know it’s the last one you will have… How would you react to the call now? chances are that you’re not going to turn off that – Now VALUABLE – cigarette for anything less than Super important 😉 .

The example above illustrated a very important issue, which implies that when we STOP something instead of replacing it with something else, it’s more likely that we’re giving or let’s say CONSOLIDATING all its values and importance.

So here’s my tips for you, whether you were thinking of implementing a small change or a Major change in your life:

  • Set small achievable goals, like instead of smoking 20 cigarettes per day, now you will smoke 17 instead
  • Avoid the VOID… meaning if you removed 3 cigarettes, replace them with something else, like drinking water, or eating a chocolate (use your best judgement on that 😛 )… Just don’t keep it floating!
  • Repeat the 2 steps above periodically… (Instead of 17 now it’s 15… etc)

And finally, remember this:

“You won’t FIND time to do something, you need to decide NOT to do Something else”

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

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Take the time to rest… Don’t be at the office when you’re at home

One of the first things you will learn when you’re an entrepreneur is that the notion of office hours doesn’t apply to you; you could be staying up late, waking up late working on a weekend… Working from your living room or from a Café… Things just don’t follow a specific rule.

As workplaces evolved, we’re seeing that the trend of working from home or let’s say taking your work outside the office is becoming more and more trendy than before, with all the technology that connects people, and brings the world closer… You could be doing your day-to-day office work and yet be somewhere completely different and what was once solely available to entrepreneurs is not available for almost everyone.

This is a slippery-slope advantage, that made things easier and yet more challenging, as the more you can work from home, the less you would be able to disconnect from your work environment… It did start with the blackberry phenomena, and never ended afterwards!

This week’s tip is about how to take the time to REFRESH and to rest… but this time, the Right way!

I know lots of people, who can’t wait till they go to the beach while they are still at the office, and when they are at the beach they start thinking of the office, and the trend continues at home, at the gym, outing with family and friends… and the list goes on and on…

Once I was being hosted at a Morning Show on TV talking my time management book, and I was clarifying that we don’t notice lots of times that we don’t enough dedicate time to rest and refresh! it seems that all of our time is occupied with “Stuff” that we need to take care of, people we need to be with, and things we need to worry about related to work, life etc…

What I said then, and here it is now… “When you’re taking some time to REST… Then REST and Don’t Work… When you’re at the beach, ENJOY being there, and Don’t be worrying about what will happen at work the next day”, some people don’t even have the luxury of a 2-day weekend and they need to achieve that level of REST in just 1. Well guess what! Some people have 10 days vacation, and yet they still feel NOT relaxed..

Relaxing is almost considered as a state of Mind and not a time-bounded activity… But the key to be successful in this, is to give each slot of your time its worth… when you’re at work, WORK… and when you’re with family or friends.. Indulge in the moment and enjoy it, as if it’s your last!

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter

One of the most common and fundamental change an individual receives after he or she go through an intensive Leadership training program would be how they look and perceive others.

When I was still working back at Microsoft, I remember a talk I’ve had with Naseem Tuffaha, a Senior Director at the time and one who truly possess genuine leadership qualities; Naseem was simplifying to me an important leadership quality, he said:

“A true leader can simply be a person who sees through the eyes of the person in front of him”

Let’s pause and reflect for a second on that statement and look at what this could mean in the real world… Why are we sometimes confronting other people because they have different opinions than us,

[from Wikipedia]

Mind over matter is a phrase popularized during the 1960s and 1970s that was originally used in reference to paranormal phenomena such as psychokinesis.However, it has also been used in reference to mind-centric spiritual and philosophic doctrines such as responsibility assumption.

This week’s tip has to do with accepting others and how we could react to that… using a Simple sentence… If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.

Just think about a conversation you were dragged into, where different opinions were stormed and yours was not the most popular among them. After a while how did you react to that… Did you leave the conversation? took a stand? insisted on turning things around?

In life, and in most times, we face situations where we need to do something we don’t like, and external circumstances might bring us unwanted surprises and challenge our tolerance. But how about I ask you this question: “When does this matter?” and when should you consider a problem a disaster and when it should be considered just an unpleasant surprise…

Well the answer is simple, and I provided it in the beginning… If you don’t MindIt doesn’t Matter 🙂

And “Minding” is something that you can control, so you can simply make something Matter to you just as simple as you can make it not to…

I’ve had a discussion with a friend couple of days back when she was asking me about happiness… and how she can’t control or “decide” to be happy… I told her the following:

“Happiness might not seem to be a Choice, but Misery certainly IS A CHOICE”

So give more time and attention to the things that really matters in life… No Wait! I can’t tell you that 😉 you need to review them for your self.

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Better Late than Never

I’ve published this post on Tuesday intentionally 🙂 … To prove this point.

So many times, we get delayed for one reason or the other in submitting a proposal, fulfilling a task, finishing a job and so on… We reach to a certain point where we cross the original deadline or let’s say appropriate time. And that point would leave us with 2 choices: 1) forget about it 2) continue and deliver on your promise “Late”.

Ok, so let me tell you a random something about your brain. One of the primary ways your brain keeps itself motivated is with a chemical called Dopamine. It’s the feel-good hormone that makes drugs so popular, but it’s also an important part of the self-regulating system that makes you productive. So the more you finish tasks the more Dopamine your system has and therefor the more accomplished you feel and therefor more HAPPY you become 🙂

Now pretty much what you would be feeling when you have just passed the deadline (whether you had all the right reasons or not), is a combination of guilt, sadness and anger. And mostly no matter what your decision will be (to proceed or not to) regarding the late task in hand it WILL be affecting your productivity; and it will be delaying so many other things, because a part of your brain will still be thinking and being emotional about it and that alone will be decreasing the energy you will have to fulfill other tasks.

So the tip for this week is simple,

  • Keep in mind that until that particular task is completed (even later on) you won’t be able to be at your Full Productive Capacity.
  • Sometimes you may be able to deliver more than expected and that MAY save you, and turn things around.
  • it’s Super important to ACKNOWLEDGE the situation with the other party, Ignoring that the mistake is not healthy and will turn back on you some other day! just Face the Music and apologize if it’s your mistake or share the reasons if it’s not.

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

It Only Takes One Small Change… To Change Everything!

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Richard Douglas “Dick” Fosbury (born March 6, 1947) is one of the most influential athletes in the history of track and field. He revolutionized the high jump event, inventing a unique “back-first” technique, now known as the Fosbury Flop, adopted by almost all high jumpers today. His method was to sprint diagonally towards the bar, then curve and leap backwards over the bar.

You see at one point in time, some Olympic records (in this case, the High Jump record) were already set and with very few progress on breaking them. Until one day Dick Fosbury did something unexpected and tried to Jump Backward or with His Back first, he did a FLOP, that made him break the high score record… And ever since that day, High Jumps are all using this FLOP method…

Same Thing in Life, we sometimes need to do a change, maybe something small, but that change will Change everything!

And that my friend, is the essence of innovation! we would be limited with our boundaries, until we would try to do something different with what we have!

Enjoy your Week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project