Look back without turning around

I’m not really sure when would it be safe to assume that one has gone through enough in his or her life so they are considered old, mature or simply “experienced”.

It may have been one of the really first articles I’ve published more than 13 years back, titled “Whom to take advice from”, and basically I took the scientific and logical approach, saying that “You shouldn’t be taking an advice from someone unless they are doing better than you in that specific topic”, you see a lot of married women take advice on how to enhance their marriage from their single & never-married or even divorced girlfriends (same thing applies to men), and a lot seek life changing advice from people whom really have no clue on what you’re talking about but they would simply care enough for you to be giving you a genuine opinion.

This week’s tip is about you taking the advice from the younger version of yourself, looking back without turning around;

When you’re back to your house, closing the door and you’re finally by yourself, it doesn’t really help to pretend that things are going well if they weren’t and instead you should look for solutions to your problems; therefor it does help to take a deep look in the mirror, or to an older photo of yourself, and evaluate what went right and what went wrong. And although your younger self have a lot to say to you, words can’t and won’t come out… it’s just that Look in your eyes… That would mean the world to you… Will it be a look of Pride or a Look of Shame of a look of indifference?

Have a nice week!

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Image from “Reflections: Portraits of the Elderly Seeing Their Younger Selves”

Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

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Be your best friend not your worst enemy

Some people spend their entire life discovering who they want to be, and forget that the moment that is passing by is just as real as all the imagination that they blended with wishful thinking about the ideal they aspire to be combined together.

You can start this week with one question: “Am I my best friend? or my worst enemy?”

 The deeper I go into myself the more I realize that I am my own enemy.
~ Floriano Martins

I’ll phrase it to you in some simple terms…

  • Do you consider those who encourage you to pursue your dreams and goals and be there for you all the way Friends or Enemies?
  • Have many times you said to your self: “NO YOU CAN’T DO IT!! YOU SHOULD GIVE UP!”
  • How many times you laughed at your self when you’ve done something stupid vs how many times you blamed yourself?

This week’s tip, is about self discovery and how much you can be holding yourself back from reaching out to where you want to be.

Try to monitor your self for a full day, hear your inner-thoughts more, are they full of negatives? full of NO & CAN’T & SHOULDN’T ? or the opposite…

Remember that the moment you ACCEPT a person as they are, is the moment you can start loving them, and the same applies to YOURSELF, so start by accepting your self the way you are, just like you accept & respect your best friends with all the good and bad they have… and Only then you can start Loving your self and your life will start to flourish both professionally and personally.

I leave you with this:

Life is a valuable and unique opportunity
to discover who you are.
But it seems as soon as you near
answering that age-old question,
something unexpected always happens
to alter your course.
And who it is you thought you were
suddenly changes.

Then comes the frustrating realization
that no matter how long life endures,
no matter how many experiences
are muddled through in this existence,
you may never really be able
to answer the question…..

Who am I?

Because the answer, like the seasons,
constantly, subtly, inevitably changes.
And who it is you are today,
is not the same person you will be tomorrow.
Richelle E. Goodrich, Eena, The Dawn and Rescue

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Celebrate your Success, Every time!

 The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.

~ Oprah Winfrey

On a Monday like this, one year ago. September 2013… This Blog Saw the Light!

They say that there’s nothing so powerful than an Idea who’s time has come, or as Jim Rohn re-quoted: There’s nothing so powerful as an Idea that comes at the right time!

At most times, you can be used to looking back at your life, at your career, at your projects, at your decisions, at your ONE activity or even at the last hour you spent and try to see what went wrong and how you can improve next time. But the question to you is the following, How many time you looked back to analyze what went right? what was the reason to your success… Even the Smallest progress you’ve made?

We’ve all have experienced success at one point in time… It could be the first time you walked, the first good grade, the winning of a great deal and so on… Once you’ve had that, your mouth will start tasting something you’ve never tasted before… It’s the taste of Success; and Once you’ve tasted that, there is no turning back, and you won’t be able to accept the mediocre taste of the average or the terrible taste of failure.

Now this week’s tip, is about Celebrating Your Success and Moving Forward!

You may think that “Celebration” is something reserved for BIG announcements, and you may be right, because the “size” or “weight” of an achievement is all in your head, you can see it as a “Big deal” or you can see it as a not worth it

The reality of this concept is simple, and it have been tough to us a long time by our parents; you see when you were a little baby, your first few “attempts” of talking carried a large and often high & joyful reaction and celebration from your parents, and the moment you said “ta ta.. da da” was the happiest moments of your parents’ life… so they celebrated YOU and with you… on your BIG achievement!! but let’s say we move forward to the 10 years old YOU who still is saying “ta ta.. da da” and can’t talk… 🙂 got the message!! 

No matter how small your achievement is, you need to celebrate it, even if it’s by your self, and even if it’s by rewarding your self with a piece of chocolate or soft drink… it’s important that you take that moment for yourself… and THEN MOVE ON.. and Raise your expectations… And then when you outperform your past achievement with a significant step, then it’s time for a new celebration!

When I started The Monday Tip, there were literally only 2 or 3 people reading it, and I kept on writing and publishing tips week after week, and was happy the day that I received even some attention, and fast forwarding to Today… I have more than 8,000 Reader. Now That’s something that needs celebration 🙂

In my own way of Saying Thank you. I’m giving away 520 Digital Copies of one of my Best Selling Books  The 10 Unbreakable Rules of Time Management

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Enjoy your Week & Thank you!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Keep Learning to Become Successful, then Start Unlearning to stay that way!

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” ~Professor Leon C. Megginson

When you often hear about Change and Evolution, depending on your age, you might visualize Charles Darwin talking about how we, the humans, have evolved or you might simply take a glimpse and think about how the use of Mobile phones evolved to changed our life…

I’ve had an interesting discussion with the Former the Microsoft’s UK Head of Education, after she moved to the Middle East and took a leadership role in Oman; She was sharing some tips from her evolved lifestyle between 2 different culture of business and even between 2 different Eras and reminded me that the key to a successful evolution is adapting to change and most importantly… Unlearning.

For this week’s tip, we’re not going into a complete paradigm shift and change our current reality (like Neo took the red Pill in the Matrix and everything changed 🙂 ) instead, we need to take a deeper look at how we, as individuals, have several habits and learning that we are so attached to,  that we try to change the circumstances to fit what we know, rather than to change what we know to fit the circumstances.

What is Unlearning?

Unlearning is not reframing or refreezing or something along that lines. They all focus on an end state whereas unlearning is about moving away from something rather than moving towards something.

So unlearning is exactly what it says. Intending to let go of what we have already learned or acquired. It is not about right or wrong. It is about being open to and exploring something that lies underneath the judgment, underneath the right and the wrong.

How do we unLearn?

Margie Warrell once explained unlearning, by LEARNING TO BE AGILE (to be flexible!) and quoting from her article at Forbes.com

Unlearning is about moving away from something—letting go—rather than acquiring. It’s like stripping old paint. It lays the foundation for the new layer of fresh learning to be acquired and to stick. But like the painter who needs to prepare a surface, stripping the paint is 70% of the work while repainting is only 30%.

So to sum it up, YES change is hard, and it’s a slow process, but it’s not impossible, and just like in order to throw an Arrow you need to Pull back; changing and adapting will make you experience some decrease in productivity and enthusiasm for a little while, but it will help you STAY successful!

Have a Nice Week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Start with what you don’t want, to get to what you want

One many levels, whether it was a big emotional decision, a new business venture, a risky leap of faith into a new opportunity, making new goals and targets, evaluating new pathes… You find your self in the status of a definite confusion.

” Should I do it? … Should I take that opportunity ?? ”

or simply you’re in the stage of evaluating your life or path and start asking the question

“Am I on the right track? what should I do with my _____ life ” (professional/ spiritual/personal / love… you fill in the blank)

This week’s tip, is inspired by a brainstorming technique used by artists and writers and later on evolved into the world of business to land into how “Innovation” is done.

The technique is simple, you start with what you have, and evolve from there, knowing that you DON’T know where that might lead you. But it’s Still OK 🙂 because that is the point of the technique. ( You need to start while being ready to reach somewhere you may not like… And be comfortable that it’s OK to be wrong)

Now let’s say you’re thinking of changing your career, and confused between the possibilities. practice this:

  • Which careers you DON’T LIKE (Le’ts say you don’t like Numbers, so you start putting accounting, finance etc on the board)
  • Which industries you DON’T like (Advertising? Food & Beverages ? etc)
  • Which Lifestyle you DON’T like to have?

The list will go on and on, and you’ll realize that although you may not know what you Like to do, you are more certain about the things you DON’T Like to do 🙂

The more you go in depth in this exercise, new ideas will start popping up in your mind, and you will start seeing things more clearly, and at some point you will get to one of 2 points:

  • You have found a good starting point to where you need to continue
  • You don’t have the frustration that you’ve not done anything about it!

Either way, you’ll be happy with the progress!

You’ll realize that although you may not know what you Like to do, you are more certain about the things you DON’T Like to do.

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project