When I was studying Behavioral Economics, I read a very interesting analogy, about how “human” are different from “ECONs” here’s how it goes:
Econs are mythical creatures that live on the pages of economics textbooks. They’re very smart, they can look forward infinitely, they can compute something called utility of objects, and they make perfectly rational choices.
Econs don’t care about emotions because they don’t have any. Econs have the ability of a supercomputer to make fairly complex computations in the snap of a finger. Human beings are people like you and me– very different. We’re different because we’re emotional. We fall in love, we sometimes do silly things, regret our choices, and sometimes we choose things just because, which is a concept that Econs would never understand. Human beings are impulsive. Human beings tend to make decisions on the spur of the moment. Human beings sometimes do things because other people would like them to do things. Human beings donate to charity. Human beings are also very forward-looking at some points in time, but often care only about the present.
So as the sum of us being Human, with all what was mentioned above, I want to concentrate this week’s tip on how to Live with NO Regrets.
Live Everyday with No Regrets, So you don’t Regret it on day ~ Samer Chidiac
I’m going to leave you with this small true story that happened with me:
Between the year 2005 & 2006 I was traveling locally in the US; Those who travel a lot can tell you that after a while, all the flights and travels will start to look the same… Same people, same faces, same issues with barely few details that change. that’s why I didn’t expect that flight to be any different.
The only difference this time was that I had the FLU, and although this might seem OK on a regular day, it’s NOT when you’re flying.
When the plane started to board, my head started to become more and more HEAVY…
I went to wash my face, and I saw it bleeding, I got terrified from the scene and even blood was coming out from my ears…
At that moment, I knew that I might be suffering from an internal bleeding and that if that was right… This would be my LAST trip.
Depressed… I went back to my seat, and placed my head on the window and started thinking… (I’m on a Plane, there’s almost NOTHING I could do…)
They tell you that when you become close to Death, you start thinking of Life… They are right… My Life was spinning in my head as a Video…
No Matter what you may think I was thinking… I wasn’t thinking about how much TV I watched, or how many songs I memorized; How many long hours I spent in the office… I was just thinking about the People who mattered most to me.
When was the last time I saw my parent? what’s the last sentence I said to them? did I spend good time with my siblings? I recalled my friends 1-by-1 and asked my self was I the example of a good friend? did I actually stood by their side in good and bad times? I was a Manager then, I recalled my employees and wondered what would they say if they knew that I was gone…
It’s a BRUTAL feeling, to see your self helpless before your end, and the idea that kills you slowly was that you won’t be able to stand before those people and Express to them How lucky you were to have them in your life… That their Love and Care, gave your Life a MEANING…
Just when everything seemed dark and heavy, I felt as if the Collective Love and Care of those people … LEND me a Hand… I Opened my eyes and Said to my Self… “I WILL MAKE IT… and when I do, I will Change my life”.
That day, my Life changed… I started living everyday as if it was my last, with no regrets… Everyday I meet someone who matter to me, I act as if it’s the last day I will see him/her..
You see I never thought of that before, that OTHER people will give you strength to be THE BEST OF WHAT YOU CAN BE… To Defy the impossible!
And I do that Every day!
The Quote from that Experience that I live with it Every day since…
“Dream as if you’re going to Live Forever… and Live as if you’re going to Die Tomorrow.”
Have a Nice Week!
Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.
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