Get yourself a reason to clean up the mess in your life


Messed Desktop BeginLet’s put it this way, if your life at the moment look similar to what my desktop does, then you really need to read this week’s tip 🙂

If you had the chance to read some of the posts I’ve shared this month, you’d first know that most probably the mess in your life is there simply because you though the combination of small issues that you have at the moment is harmless and you can always fix it just when you want to… or “have time to”; While Actually the longer you carry and hold on to even tiny things, you just don’t know how HEAVY this would be on you. (Check out the original post) and not also that, but it’s HOW you are holding on to those small issues that also makes a difference… (Check out the Second post on that point)

So let’s start this week’s tip, with a small conversation I’ve had with a dear friend, knowing that I’m an early bird, and love to wake up very early and start my day and become productive mostly before everyone else is awake, she wanted to ask for a clarification, cause she knew that it doesn’t really matter if I slept at 10 PM or at 3 AM, the routine is still the same for me… I still wake up and be as productive as I can be…

So my answer to her was simple: “I Have a Reason to Wake up to Everyday!”

Do you remember the days you were dragged to wake up in the morning to go school? or to Work? Different times, but still the same reaction… Are you striving to hit that snooze button so you can get an extra 10 minutes of sleep?

… Now let me ask you this, Remember when you had this exciting news to wake up to the second day, that almost prevented you from sleep where every inch of your body was just too excited… It must have happened to you at one point in time… Just Look it up and try to remember the feeling that you had when it happened… The Energy that fueled you all over… it’s called Motivation… and in this week’s tip, I’m calling it the REASON

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You see, once you have a reason to wake up in the morning looking forward to… All the other effort you would put would sound very insignificant… Cause that same reason, is not your answer to the “WHY” you’re doing what you’re doing…

Just like when you have a beautiful photo of a lovely memory, you really WANT TO SEE IT on your Desktop background… otherwise, you won’t have the necessary motif to clean up that mess…

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  “Early rising not only gives us more life in the same number of years, but adds, likewise, to their number; and not only enables us to enjoy more of existence in the same time, but increases also the measure.” ~ Caleb C. Colton

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the â€śInfluencing the Life of Others” project

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Sometimes you need to hear what you don’t want to

At points in time, we feel that we have everything figured out in life, as if we know exactly what we want and how do we want it… Yet we would NOT be willing to do what it takes to get what we really want… It’s probably one of the most mysterious concepts in human psychology…

When I was very young, I have always have admiration to those tiny ANTS who taught me more about determination than probably all the business schools I have ever visited and attended… Those tiny creatures, that NO MATTER how much the 6 years old kid tried to keep them away from their path… They keep going back… And they Won’t Stop!

…Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there.

~Steve Jobs

In this week’s tip, I’d like to highlight something very important, it’s about being determined to get what you really want… What you really want to achieve in Life… That’s why you have to do EVERYTHING THAT YOU NEED TO DO in order to get there… I can list countless examples from productivity to life lessons to economics and even to literature… That shows how most of the times you would NEED to do something you don’t like to get to something you want.

I have done so many talks about motivation to people who really wanted to listen… So many times I can’t even remember, and Yet I can almost still recall every individual talk I’ve had with someone who NEEDED to hear me out..

And I can’t illustrate it better than sharing with you the monologue from a very nice talk between Sean and Will (Robbin Williams and Matt Damon) in the movie Good Will Hunting.

So if I asked you about art you could give me the skinny on every art book ever written… Michelangelo? You know a lot about him I bet. Life’s work, criticisms, political aspirations.
But you couldn’t tell me what it smells like in the Sistine Chapel. You’ve never stood there and looked up at that beautiful ceiling.

And if I asked you about women I’m sure you could give me a syllabus of your personal favorites, and maybe you’ve been laid a few times too.
But you couldn’t tell me how it feels to wake up next to a woman and be truly happy.

If I asked you about war you could refer me to a bevy of fictional and non-fictional material,
but you’ve never been in one. You’ve never held your best friend’s head in your lap and watched him draw his last breath, looking to you for help.

And if I asked you about love I’d get a sonnet, but you’ve never looked at a woman and been truly vulnerable. Known that someone could kill you with a look.
That someone could rescue you from grief. That God had put an angel on Earth just for you.

And you wouldn’t know how it felt to be her angel. To have the love be there for her forever. Through anything, through cancer. You wouldn’t know about sleeping sitting up in a hospital room for two months holding her hand and not leaving because the doctors could see in your eyes that the term “visiting hours” didn’t apply to you.

And you wouldn’t know about real loss, because that only occurs when you lose something you love more than yourself, and you’ve never dared to love anything that much.

I look at you and I don’t see an intelligent confident man, I don’t see a peer, and I don’t see my equal. I see a boy. Nobody could possibly understand you, right Will?

So wherever you are right now, whatever you are doing, when you get the chance… JUST OPEN Your Heart and LISTEN…

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

You can’t lead a horse if you’re not clear where you’re going

I recently had an interesting chat with a friend of mine, she is in the middle of a career-shift and was asking my opinion on how to proceed and what advice can she get from someone who pays a lot of attention on strategic thinking and the value of KNOWING WHERE YOU ARE GOING 🙂

Therefor, this week’s tip, is multi-purposed, it goes both ways, whether you are in looking how to move forward with your career, or simply evaluating where you are today.

Probably to start, I would highlight what Gandhi said about life and how there is more to life than simply increasing its speed,

There is more to life than simply increasing its speed. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

If we look a little bit and try to learn from a very dear creature to me, the horse 🙂 , you would greatly realize that your career moves you just like riding a horse; How? keep reading…

1. Clarity is Key

You really can’t expect to reach where you are going if you don’t know where you are heading, who do you want to be? what do you want to do? how do you expect to write a resume that is designed to talk JUST about you.. Where you are right now, and where you want to be… And most importantly How clear you are about your self. A horse somehow sense that when he is being LEAD, Driven or just a transport mean…

2.Your career is honest

In my personal opinion, Horses are the most Honest creatures you may encounter…A horse never forgets and never forgives, they can be more honest than humans, and just like horses, your career is honest as well, you can take bad decisions or wrong moves, and it will impact you for a long time…

3. Confidence, Bravery and Patience

You can learn a lot from a cowboy, they know that it’s not easy to be able to manage, manipulate, and train an animal of that size and ability, it requires confidence, and a lot of patience, as the horse needs first to understand what you expect from him, and then to be able to get to the point where they can ride and be in total control to get the horse to jump over that fence smoothly… Now that requires Bravery!

 4. Responsibility

When horse accepted man onto his back and chose to carry his burdens, it changed the world. So you have a big responsibility, to come out and care for that horse day in and day out and when you are sick or lazy, you can’t just decide not to come in. They depend on you. Same thing with your career.

 5. Partnership

Unlike a car, a horse is a real partner in your journey, and not just a mean of transportation; The horse will stop both of you from falling of a cliff, even if you were not paying attention, he would trust your leadership, although to be honest, he’s the one doing most of the execution, but he would know that you’re an integral part of the success of the activity.

So for this week, just remember that you can’t expect to just ride on a horse and they would do everything for you, you need to spend a lot of time and some really hard work, before you could enjoy the greatness of what a horse can give you… And same thing with your career… You shouldn’t expect things to come easy, but after a while, things pay back handsomely… with the essence of clarity.

This post is dedicated to K.D. and inspired by E.Ch. 

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

You will know how heavy a burden was, when you let it go

When I started delivering workshops on Time Management, I’ve almost always started with this example… The Example of How Heavy the glass of water is. (or a bottle, depending how it would work out)


How heavy is a glass of water?

A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked,”How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 4oz to 12oz.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

He continued,”And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.”

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow.”

“Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. So, my friend, put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while.”


This week’s tip, is about discovering the wasted energy that we can suffer from without knowing… You see we may be carrying something very delicate and not necessarily heavy, but requires constant concentration and attention, for a long time that we almost destroy our productivity.

Just take a REAL look at what you are carrying, and believe me, you wouldn’t know how REALLY heavy the load you have, until you let it go… Even for an Evening… so do not underestimate the small pending issues you have, cause they may be killing your productivity softly..

Whether it was the electricity bill you forgot to pay, or that old relationship you still are holding on to, every small stuff, will be a huge burden after a while, and it will need further energy to sustain… And you might realize that you’re not actually afraid of letting go… but from moving forward…

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.

~Nicole Sobon

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project