Change is great, don’t get me wrong… It’s wonderful, it’s necessary in our life and the right amount of it, blended with the right areas and dosage produces evolution that often leads to progress.
Let’s start with something that you would like to Hear… CHANGE IS GREAT…. The second (that you don’t like to hear) would be… CHANGING IS NOT GREAT.
Yes, the difference between the 2 statement has to do with where you stand on the line. Are you the one changing? or playing a role in that change or simply you would love to be as far as possible from it when it happen on its own?
Whether you are changing a relationship status (in a good way or a bad way), changing jobs, attending to a restructure in your own company, a New Boss, a New Diet or simply switching from an iPhone to an Android… Change can happen or occur to you on so many levels, and irrespective of what/how it happens, there’s some sort of a change curve that is observed a lot that has a relationship with the Morale of the person and which take around 5-8 steps over time.
If you can just notice a little bit in the Change model illustrated above, you would notice that the person going through some change would start with a SHOCK, Then DENIAL his morale will drop with FRUSTRATION and DEPRESSION and then things will start picking up so they can reach to ACCEPTANCE and INTEGRATION.
No matter how well planned the change management is, or how arbitrary it was, the CHANGED person would go through the same… Only the phases / steps may be much smoother in the Planned change than in the an UN-Planned one.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”Leo Tolstoy
This week’s tip is about dealing with change, especially when it’s a DECISION taken by you, and not imposed on you by someone else.
Some of the most common “New Year’s Resolutions” include a long list of “I Will start a diet, Exercise, Work hard, start a new project, marry, have kids etc… ” and those lists gets longer and longer. Irrespective of how much you would actually implement, but let’s say that one of the main reason these resolutions break down, is when you try to do all of them at the same time.
Let me tell it to you straight… YOU CAN’T JUST WIN EVERYTHING… You will need to chose wisely on what to focus on.
Trying to focus on a lot of things and fight many different battles and try to succeed on many fronts doesn’t seem very hard… IT IS VERY HARD… and that’s why you would love to see it happen more than trying to make it happen yourself.
Think about it this way, if let’s say you implemented multiple changes at the same time and your (kubler-ross) change cycle started… And you are in the Frustration/Depression phase, and then you fire off another change and another change that each will trigger and start their own change cycle all over… You will end us with more and more depression and frustration cycles… That’s why there are higher chances that you DROP IT all together than moving up from Depression to acceptance and integration.
So it’s very simple, whatever you want to do (in one same category) do it… and see how it will go and then after you are out of the change cycle and you can monitor the progress for a while, try to go back and see how you can implement another change.
Have a beautiful week!
Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker.