Forgive quickly, move on faster and never forget

Even in the deepest of the wholes in your relationships, you can still move out and on…. However the more you stay there, the more comfortable it will look and more importantly, the more painful the move will be.

There are some situations in life where it will be inevitable to escape, maybe you miss-trusted someone and you paid the price, maybe you expected too much from someone and you got disappointing results or just maybe that person is simply YOU.

When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.


Bernard Meltzer

Now I know that what I’m going to say to you might sound more of a cliché, but based on so many experiences of my own and of the people I have interviewed, this cliché does perform better than other tips that you may have seen before.

This week’s tip is about that cliché…

Forgive but never forget.

Let’s say you passed through a bad breakup, irrespective of who’s fault was it, the more you stay without moving on will keep destroying you and your chances of continuing your life… And it’s easier to actually unplugging “while the metal is still hot” than later on when things are colder.

Some would tell you to forget about it and move on… I wouldn’t suggest you do… simply because it’s really REALLY hard to do so… If there was someone who actually figured out how to selectively forget a situation in your life, he or she would be very rich selling that secret to millions of people; So in brief, don’t forget… But the Action that you can really take, is to FORGIVE.

Forgive that person, forgive your self… Either way, it’s a conscious activity that requires both courage and determination..

The Fastest you do so, the easier it is (TRUST ME) to move on… And don’t story there, Move ON…

Blessed are those who give without remembering. And blessed are those who take without forgetting. 

Bernard Meltzer

Never Forget, cause you never really know what the future will bring and how things can change and you may be able to find an opportunity to have a decent CLOSURE that will make it worth it and that will be the last key to make you forget.

Have a wonderful week,
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

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Pack Your Bag For a New Beginning

On a day like today, exactly one year ago, I was packing my bag for the journey that would change my life…

To tell you a bit about my self, in the past 15 years, I have been on airplanes more than I have taken Buses… so Flying for me is really not a big deal, it’s more of a day-to-day experience rather than anything else, and packing for a trip was not something special… But that night was different… You see, I was flying OUT… Out of my old life, out of my past and especially out of my present.

I was not trying to escape from tomorrow, I was simply signing off on the last page of the book of my life story today, and start a new book with the story that will BEGIN tomorrow..

At many points in life, we feel that we need to start over, to experience something new, to change our lives and move forward to a brighter day, we close our eyes, and we pray and hope really hard for the moment we will open our eyes and realize that all of our issues are gone…

Well the big and most important point that try skip, is not the decision of starting over or having a new beginning, but it’s more of  the bag-pack we will have on that day… What will it include.

A Beginning by definition, is the very first starting point of “anything”; so on your timeline of thoughts, a beginning shouldn’t be the “continuity” of the past… but moreover a start of something new… But let’s face it, how could you FLY if you can’t let go of the thins that weight you down? how can you move on when you can’t let go of the things that made you miserable in the first place?

It’s that night where you need to decide to leave so many things behind, – Unfortunately, things to let go will include both GOOD and BAD – , pack your bag with the things you will need for your next journey… and Move on… That’s this week’s Tip 🙂

 Make no mistake your relationships are the heaviest components in your life.

The following is a speech from the movie up in the air starring George Clooney as Ryan Bingham. I kinda relate so much to this movie; and although it may seem a big harsh, it does have a lot of truth in it depending on where you stand right now…

How much does your life weigh? Imagine for a second that you’re carrying a backpack. I want you to pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life… you start with the little things. The shelves, the drawers, the knickknacks, then you start adding larger stuff. Clothes, tabletop appliances, lamps, your TV… the backpack should be getting pretty heavy now. You go bigger. Your couch, your car, your home… I want you to stuff it all into that backpack. Now I want you to fill it with people. Start with casual acquaintances, friends of friends, folks around the office… and then you move into the people you trust with your most intimate secrets. Your brothers, your sisters, your children, your parents and finally your husband, your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend. You get them into that backpack, feel the weight of that bag. Make no mistake your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. All those negotiations and arguments and secrets, the compromises. The slower we move the faster we die. Make no mistake, moving is living. Some animals were meant to carry each other to live symbiotically over a lifetime. Star crossed lovers, monogamous swans. We are not swans. We are sharks.

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

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