Even in the deepest of the wholes in your relationships, you can still move out and on…. However the more you stay there, the more comfortable it will look and more importantly, the more painful the move will be.
There are some situations in life where it will be inevitable to escape, maybe you miss-trusted someone and you paid the price, maybe you expected too much from someone and you got disappointing results or just maybe that person is simply YOU.
When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.
Now I know that what I’m going to say to you might sound more of a cliché, but based on so many experiences of my own and of the people I have interviewed, this cliché does perform better than other tips that you may have seen before.
This week’s tip is about that cliché…
Forgive but never forget.
Let’s say you passed through a bad breakup, irrespective of who’s fault was it, the more you stay without moving on will keep destroying you and your chances of continuing your life… And it’s easier to actually unplugging “while the metal is still hot” than later on when things are colder.
Some would tell you to forget about it and move on… I wouldn’t suggest you do… simply because it’s really REALLY hard to do so… If there was someone who actually figured out how to selectively forget a situation in your life, he or she would be very rich selling that secret to millions of people; So in brief, don’t forget… But the Action that you can really take, is to FORGIVE.
Forgive that person, forgive your self… Either way, it’s a conscious activity that requires both courage and determination..
The Fastest you do so, the easier it is (TRUST ME) to move on… And don’t story there, Move ON…
Blessed are those who give without remembering. And blessed are those who take without forgetting.Bernard Meltzer
Never Forget, cause you never really know what the future will bring and how things can change and you may be able to find an opportunity to have a decent CLOSURE that will make it worth it and that will be the last key to make you forget.
Have a wonderful week,
Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker.