In my life, I have met a lot of people who – at several times in their life – felt trapped in a prison that they built for themselves… You know that feeling where you cannot move forward and can’t seem to do anything else.
Let me ask you few questions then, and see if you have been or you currently are one of these people I’m describing:
Have you ever suffered from a loss? Have you ever suffered from a bad breakup? from something that was so bad that it penetrated your every bone and you felt that with every beat of your heart there was pain… 24/7
If the answer to this was YES, or in a way, you can relate to that by remembering a special person if your head… Then by all means.. READ ON!
I’ve heard a lot of similar advice, and in different wording, but the substance is the same… Hardship will always happen, it’s what you do when it happens that makes all the difference.
I had a discussion once in one of my Facebook Live sessions, and 2 points emerged from that:
- You may feel a direct link with how much a person means to you and how STRONG / BAD you feel sad for their loss.
- The pain can sometimes be the only link you have with someone
Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world.Eckhart Tolle
This week’s tip is all about what you should NOT DO…
If you read the previous 2 points properly, you would realize a reason from which you feel obliged to be sad for the loss of someone…
Don’t get me wrong, feeling sad and upset and all these types, is healthy and it makes you wash away a lot of things in the process… However when that activity evolve into building yourself a prison for the next several years… then it’s BAD..
Realize that YOU may fall victim of YOU… You may put a roadblock on your future by imprisoning yourself in the past… So Simply… DON’T
Give yourself enough time to be sad… and express it in every mean you can think of… in Public or in Private… But do STOP at one point.. Otherwise you are building yourself a prison… Built by YOU… to imprison YOU.
Have a great week,
Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker.