Say Yes to Life!

Starting a New Year, a new chapter, a new book or a new life always comes with some luggage that we need to unpack. From past experiences to emotional liabilities or simply old limiting beliefs. 

If you take a small trip back in your memory lane, to a time when you were still a little kid, how many things you were afraid of that today doesn’t even count, how many illusions of how life would be turned out to be not even close to what reality was. 

Faith is not simply a patience that passively suffers until the storm is past. Rather, it is a spirit that bears things – with resignations, yes, but above all, with blazing, serene hope.


Corazon Aquino –  Former President of the Philippines

Among a lot of people I have met in my life, there were those who loved life more than anything else in the world, they loved to feel the simplest of things like a breath of air and where they wouldn’t spare any opportunity to go out and enjoy their time; however, in contrast, there are those whom you cannot make them smile no matter what you do. 

Saying Yes to Life is Living… 

This week’s tip is about just that, you need to think about what is making you sad or what is making you unhappy, and ask yourself if YOU are the one who is saying NO to the opportunity to change your unhappiness to happiness? 

I read in a book once about the different types of mindset that a person can have… and I can remember a small story, where the Dr. asked her patient who have been through a difficult break up: 

“If you are to choose between Being Happy and Having the other person suffer what would you choose?”

And trust me, Your answer to a similar question would make all the difference in the world.

Have a nice week,

Cheers,
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

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Be like a baby… Then Grow up!

If you ever had the opportunity to study Psychology, one of the foundation of this magnificent study will be about learning, and how do we learn. And to be able to understand the evolution of the Brain & Mind in this, they normally start with studying babies.

There’s a fascinating small game that parents play with their infant child, that is almost universally known as “PEEK-A-POO”, where the parent (adult) hide his or her face from the child and then show it again with the work “PEEK-A-Poooooo” (Where I come from the word was “BAA’OOUSSI”) and the look on the child’s face at that moment, is priceless :).

For those of us who are not too technical on this, The Game is nice, brings positive vibes and simply fun and easy to play with a child; In Psychology, the explanation of that, is simple… The Infant’s Brain at that stage of Learning, REALLY THINKS THAT THE OTHER PERSON DISAPPEARED! and throughout time, the game will start being less interesting as the child develop the understanding of how it works.

Now moving on to another very nice thing about babies, when they start to walk or talk… Their first attempts are always the most important and most desired to witness by their parents… It doesn’t have to be perfect… in fact, NOONE ever is expecting a child’s first words would be “To Be or Not to Be… That is the Question” :P; but instead they might start speaking in a very alienated form of speech until one day they say something that sounds like “DA DA”, or the day when the child will try to stand up by themselves and then fall down in a cute and adorable way.

Now what would be the role of the parents at that stage… in simple terms:

Protecting > Encouraging > Motivating > Correcting > Raising the Bar
(and then starting this all over again)

You see a child saying “DA DA” is different than a 10 years old speaking like that… So first there’s a safe environment to actually innovate and do whatever you like, then you get the encouragement to do so, then you get a cheerful motivation, and a correction but then the parent is no longer impressed by that attempt, and then they require more efforts 🙂

This week’s tip, is pointing out that each one of us, learn in different ways, but most importantly gets motivated in different ways, and therefor, by applying the simple rules of parenting… An employee can be encouraged to start learning something new, to excel in their field and become innovative…

And Although you may think that this Tip is dedicated for Managers… You are right… But you are your own MANAGER… and You need to start motivating yourself using those rules… And you Will succeed…

Start small, Encourage yourself to try, Reward your self for the small improvement, correct yourself, raise the bar and then REPEAT.

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

At this particular moment, there’s only one thing you can do

Sometimes the deepest sentences in life, are the simplest with a pure and very basic meaning… We watch movies, read stories and live experiences, to finally express one word… such as Love, Fun, Pain, Loss… etc

We LEARN… Yes we learn the meanings of an already known word to us, we re-discover it throughout many sophistication, we feel that if we learn it the hard way, we will keep what learned. Well we may be right! but not so quite…

You see, when an information, a relationship, a deal, a prize or virtually anything, comes easy we tend to underestimate its value, or even take it for granted… Unlike when we have to work really hard for it… If you received an advice from a friend for free… you might not take it as serious as if it would’ve come to you from a professional consultant that charged you 1,000$ to give you the exact piece of advice.

This week’s tip, explores a basic and fundamental principle… What we call: The Moment…

“What day is it?”
It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
My favorite day,” said Pooh.”
A.A. Milne

As a senior strategist, with a strong force of habit, I can’t help but living far away in the future while living my present day… Whether I was writing a plan, evaluating and studying a business case and so on… Unfortunately I discovered that by sometimes living in the future, you lose sight of the present, but most importantly, you lose both… Cause the picture of that beautiful scene, no matter how clear and vivid it is, is only a representation of how you felt when you were there… and if you can’t remember how the air was twinkling on your cheeks while you took a long look at the beautiful mountains, the picture won’t deliver that feeling to you…

Therefor,in everyday, you should look out and enjoy the moment, cause sometimes you may be lucky to see a rainbow and sometimes you may just see a sunshine, and sometimes you don’t … Just remember this, every moment is the best moment you will ever have, so take advantage of it TODAY, NOW and LIVE it to the fullest… As it were your last… cause it is YOUR Last… And the next moment, is simply… Different.

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

You will know how heavy a burden was, when you let it go

When I started delivering workshops on Time Management, I’ve almost always started with this example… The Example of How Heavy the glass of water is. (or a bottle, depending how it would work out)


How heavy is a glass of water?

A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked,”How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 4oz to 12oz.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

He continued,”And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.”

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow.”

“Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. So, my friend, put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while.”


This week’s tip, is about discovering the wasted energy that we can suffer from without knowing… You see we may be carrying something very delicate and not necessarily heavy, but requires constant concentration and attention, for a long time that we almost destroy our productivity.

Just take a REAL look at what you are carrying, and believe me, you wouldn’t know how REALLY heavy the load you have, until you let it go… Even for an Evening… so do not underestimate the small pending issues you have, cause they may be killing your productivity softly..

Whether it was the electricity bill you forgot to pay, or that old relationship you still are holding on to, every small stuff, will be a huge burden after a while, and it will need further energy to sustain… And you might realize that you’re not actually afraid of letting go… but from moving forward…

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.

~Nicole Sobon

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

You are not the center, the center is You

During my path of coaching and assisting people, whether it was on a professional or personal level, if we were in a casual conversation or in a formal meeting, I have encountered a lot of similarities in what hold some people off from realizing their potential, and sometimes in what is holding them from doing any type of progress!

This week’s tip is inspired by the same conversation that I had with like at least a dozen of individuals (with variations of course); the initial versus of the conversation starts with something like:

  • I don’t know what to do …
  • My personal life is going nowhere…
  • My professional life is going nowhere…
  • I’m not the same person I used to be before…

and then it continues on and on, and at some point in the conversation, I would ask “Why can’t you do this… ” and the reply is always similar to:

  • But you don’t understand, how can I do this while THAT is still there…
  • I can’t focus on my work while my Personal life is not working…
  • I can’t focus on My self while I’m having issues at my work…

So to cut it short, here’s what I end up saying:

“My dear <NAME>,

Let me put it this way for you, there are 3 Circles in your life. 1) The Professional Life, 2) The Personal Life & 3) The Private Life.

1) The Professional Life: includes all the work related items, your relationship with your boss, colleagues etc

2) Your Personal Life: includes your family, friends, loved ones, LOVEd one, and your life with them

3) Your Private Life: which includes YOU, how you eat, drink, exercise, what makes you happy, and what makes you sad… etc

All 3 constitute YOUR LIFE, but let’s be realistic, those 3 areas are not the front of the BLADE of a BULLDOZER that you use to CRAFT your life AT THE SAME TIME!  in fact although they are interconnected and interdependent, they are to be dealt with separately.

Of course when you are happy at home, and you are in great physical shape, it would affect your professional life in a positive manner. Of Course, the opposite will affect (and would probably mess up) everything around you. But Hey! don’t make yourself the CENTER of the 3 circles, just understand that The Center is YOU. And you just need to have a mental separation to all 3…

  • You need to Eat healthy, take care of your self, EVEN IF YOUR professional life is not going well.. Don’t Stop Taking care of yourself…
  • You need to take good care of your personal life Even if you have issues at work
  • You need to keep the work related issues… AT WORK….

From what I learned from Successful people, they do that a lot, they have this amazing ability of separating things mentally, if they have issues at home, they don’t make that affect their responsibility and especially their communication with their employees, teams and colleagues… If they have an issue at Work, they don’t bring on the stress home to their family.

If you put yourself in the Spotlight of the 3 circles, you won’t get satisfaction unless everything is solved / working optimally, however realizing that the center is you, makes you work further on developing / handling each aspect separately and enjoy the benefits!

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project