Reading the signs and signals

Working as a futurist and as a senior strategist for a while now, taught me a lot of things and one of the most important lessons I learned was about reading signs… Signs about the future, and about what can happen to you or let’s say MAY happen to you.

 Let’s say that you are driving your car, to hear a weird sound coming from the engine, then that sound stops and you don’t hear it again… You may decide to check it out (just to be on the safe side) or just ignore it as it just happened as a one-time thing… if the same sound gets repeated another time, then the sign of something that may be wrong gets stronger, and your internal voice would start communicating with you to tell you that it would be wise to check it out… and if that sound was there for the 3rd time, the sign is stronger now, and you are now saying that you need to check it out… but come on, the car is still running, and everything seems in order, so you decide to get the car engine checked “when you have time”… 2 weeks later, your car broke down while you were taking your wife and kids out and the timing couldn’t be more wrong… and the story went on…

 Another configuration of the same scenario can go into relationships, business transactions, and any other you may think of… you may see some signs that can seem weird but not necessarily worrying from your friend or partner, and then you notice the same behavior more than once until a big issue can happen like betrayal or whatever.

 This week’s tip is about the action that you need to train your self on doing… It’s not about the signs… It’s about READING the signs… You may be going into a place and you see a sign outside in a different language that you don’t understand, and you ignore it and go, only to discover that this sign was meant to stop you from entering or from performing an action and so.

 Some of us are lucky to have CLEAR signs on their way, while the rest of us are not… Imagine that you could see a person wearing a sign that says “Liar” or “Cheater” before things would be more serious between you two. Therefore if you want to train your self on reading the signals, you need to understand patterns and trends… and then you can spot the outlier among these, so taking the example of the car, you know what the different sounds that it produces, and you can tell which sound is “natural” and which is not.

 Find out about something that is wrong, or let’s say not right come from reviewing and analyzing the landscape of all the patterns and what is traditionally have been considered in a normal range and which is not… and mostly you would “feel” that something is not right… Yes, you read that properly… Experienced professional would sense and feel that something is not right but they can’t tell what is it… so they start investigating more… maybe by reviewing old data (did this happen before… with me or with someone else?) and if they couldn’t find it in the old data… they would create a situation that would make them surer or not…

 Just like a doctor, you may find a patient showing a specific symptom, that may seem like a specific sickness, but you can’t be sure with the current data, so you ask for more tests, like blood tests and you check the results against what should be classified as the normal range and you find the outliers and evaluate if these outliers together can prove your theory or not..

 The advice I can give you is that you are NOT to ignore the signs, some signs lead to great opportunities, and some are for a potential discomfort and even a disaster… and they call it the “Window” of opportunity for a reason… if you don’t act quickly, you would miss It and it will be closed; meanwhile, the threat would start small, and then it grows.

 Trust your hunch, and act wisely and appropriately… and it’s ok to be wrong… the more you are wrong, you learn, and the next time you’re more trained to make the right discovery.

 Enjoy your week,

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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

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Lie to me!

Everybody lies, that’s a famous statement in the TV Series “House”, and in so many other studies. We lie about our age, background, relationships, health and social issues. Lying is just a mechanism that some people use to get away with a specific situation (temporary or permanently).

Ever since you were a kid, and growing year by year, you would start discovering that you can escape some situations if you simply told a lie, babies don’t lie, but at a certain age, they start realizing that they are capable of saying something that is different than the truth, and others may not notice.

TRUST ME I’M LYING

The impact of lying can sometimes not be very significant (like when a husband lie to his wife when she ask him about how does she look in a particular dress) or can be super significant (positively or negatively) when that lie reaches a whole new level (like creating a cult or a new religion… and needless to say, Politics and more).

In this article, I’m not going to go through the “Strategic Lies”, I’m just going to shed the light on few points that a manager can take notes of, and of course anyone for what that matters.

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”

Friedrich Nietzsche

Trusting the person after they have committed a crime towards your honesty, is very difficult. And a lot of actions can fall within the Lying Category (Cheating, deception and more…)

SYMPTOMS OF LYING

Luckily, spotting the (honest) liar can prove to be easier than some would think. As we are all humans, and no matter how great we are and how competent we are, we can (almost) never control our subconscious mind. So per example, you can raise your hand and clap your fingers whenever you want, but you cannot control when your pupils would dilate or when to start or stop sweating per example, as these are all control by your right brain which is (luckily again) the honest part of you.

Let me ask you this, if you child (or little brother) break something, and you confront him to do so… Most likely you would use a sentence like “Look me in the eyes and tell me if you did it”. It’s mostly because avoiding eye contacts is a very major companion to telling a lie.

Other symptoms, includes covering the mouth with your hand, scratching your head and – Believe it or not – scratching your nose because it becomes slightly bigger (do you remember the famous Pinocchio Story where his nose would grow bigger when told a lie?)

The famous Pinocchio

THE LIE FOR ME TEST

This week’s tip is about how to intentionally spot the liar in someone with whom you deal with, work with, or live with…

In a lot of movies, TV series, you would find couples spotting the lies of each others by suggesting specific gestures that the other person is doing and you often hear something like “You always do this thing with your ear when you lie”… So each person, mostly, have a gesture associated with lying. So all you need to do, is to get to know what this/these are.

I used this week’s tip/trick on multiple occasions with my employees, to understand how would they lie. Especially with those in key positions that is critical to me. When I first hired my executive assistant, which is a very tricky role in any organization, I needed to see how would she lie *if ever she had to*; And don’t get me wrong, Maryam (my Executive assistant at the time) was an ANGEL, she was very smart and exceptionally reliable; so I decided to test her;

The test was very simple, and should be harmless, I needed to check how would her facial expression be. When The phone rang, and I knew who was the person calling, I told her to tell them that I wasn’t in the office and that I mostly won’t be able to come today. The task was simple, but she wasn’t very prepared for such a thing… So her reaction was confusion all over her face and all types of gestures… But her voice sounded warm and confident.

And you could guess, that I repeated the same exercise multiple times (with slight changes) to see how would she get more comfortable to lying about that specific topic and then show her trademarked gesture… And then I noticed it… I can Proudly say that I never seen her trademarked gesture in my many years working with her, because she truly was one of the rare few honest people that you would be genuinely lucky to have her in your team. However I wish I can say the same about other members of my team over the years.

So my advice to you is to try to figure out (in your own way) how your key employees lie and then you won’t be surprised when it really Matters.

Have a wonderful week,
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

5 types of lies you tell yourself and what to do next!

You can guess what Monday is it, it’s Monday the first of April, and traditionally it’s a day where you can allow yourself to lie a “white lie” that is both harmless and entertaining with others… Now whether you do that or not, it became a common practice even with big corporations such as Google, Emirates Airlines and way more, so why not?

You talk to yourself all the time, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing… You just need to be careful with the topic itself… what are the most common 5 lies you tell yourself?

“If you wear a mask for too long, there will come a time when you can not remove it without removing your face.” 

Matshona Dhliwayo

#5 I’m a failure

THE END LIE: That’s one statement that you tell yourself when you feel devastated from trying too hard and not succeeding, however what you may not realize that it’s actually an END RESULT which implies that you WON’T CHANGE no matter what… So instead, you can start by saying… I Failed… OK, Cool… What can I learn from this… OK… Now let’s move on…

#4 I am nearly there

THE MOTIVATIONAL LIE: Now despite that I’m not necessarily against this type of way to motivate your self, but sometimes it is used in a way that gives a false sense of completion and hold you back rather than pushing you forward. Per example, if you are commuting for 20 KM, and you passed 1 KM only… Saying that you are nearly there is an overstatement and at the same time, if you’re on the 19 KM mark, then yes you are truthful… However, When you are 9 KM or 11 KM, then you’re not there yet, and but you are far off where you begun, so in this case, you can motivate yourself in whatever you think feasible to keep going… and Not taking it as a reason to stop.

#3 He loves me but, he’s too busy

THE BETTER-HALF LIE: Yeah yeah yeah… He (or she) loves me… but he is too busy to call, too busy to give me attention and too busy for a lot of other things… But he still loves me… and I’m OK with that…. He did this or that because he cares about me… I must have done something wrong to deserve this… And the list goes on and on.

To be honest with you, WTH!!! … You’re giving excuses on behalf of someone else, so in other words, you are assuming something that you don’t know for certain, and if I know one thing… NOTHING is CERTAIN… a lot of people get deceived by someone who they think they knew… and the best con artists in the world… are those who MAKES YOU BELIEVE IT ON YOUR OWN… So if you’re doing the work of giving your Better-half an excuse… Congratulations… You’ve just made a BETTER-HALF Lie to yourself.

#2 I’m going to do this for the last time

THE ONE LAST TIME LIE: I’m going to __________ (start exercising/ dieting/ stopping this /starting that) tomorrow, be for today, I’m going to do this ONE LAST TIME…

Whether you want to quit a bad habit, or start a new one, the temptation that you can get from the ONE LAST TIME of something is unparalleled. Maybe one last smoke? or one last time with this delicious fast food before switching to healthy eating… Whatever your ONE LAST TIME was… If you really wanted to quit, you would just START and resist the temptation of this type of lies.

#1 You can’t cook the chicken except after removing its legs.

Wait… What?? well as a start you need to give it to me that I grabbed your attention.. Read on cause this is the worst type of Lie of them all!

THE TRUE LIE: I once had a conversation with a friend of mine who told me that when he got married, his wife had a small conflict with his mother who was “suggesting” to her on how to cook chicken which is removing its legs then putting it in the oven. And as weird as it sounded, the wife complained to my friend who told her that the Mother learned it from her mother…

So my friend went to the old grandmother, and asked her on the SECRET… and she simply replied “We had a small oven that didn’t fit the whole chicken.”

Just like the mother of my friend didn’t know why her mother was cooking the chicken this way, and decided not to change the way… We have a lot of habits and Knowledge that we don’t know where it came from, and we do them anyhow… And that eventually they became our Truth! and this the worst type, cause it’s a true lie… And you have no idea that it is…

So how about you check which habits falls in the last category… The Lies that you don’t know they are Lies… And you pass them on!

The tip for this week is obviously related to “Stop selling your lies to yourself”… Despite – again – that I hate lying in general and wouldn’t recommend it in any situation, however for the purpose of this blog, I would focus on the part where telling yourself lies to make something better is the worst you could do.

Have a TRUE-LY wonderful week!
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

Forgive quickly, move on faster and never forget

Even in the deepest of the wholes in your relationships, you can still move out and on…. However the more you stay there, the more comfortable it will look and more importantly, the more painful the move will be.

There are some situations in life where it will be inevitable to escape, maybe you miss-trusted someone and you paid the price, maybe you expected too much from someone and you got disappointing results or just maybe that person is simply YOU.

When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.


Bernard Meltzer

Now I know that what I’m going to say to you might sound more of a cliché, but based on so many experiences of my own and of the people I have interviewed, this cliché does perform better than other tips that you may have seen before.

This week’s tip is about that cliché…

Forgive but never forget.

Let’s say you passed through a bad breakup, irrespective of who’s fault was it, the more you stay without moving on will keep destroying you and your chances of continuing your life… And it’s easier to actually unplugging “while the metal is still hot” than later on when things are colder.

Some would tell you to forget about it and move on… I wouldn’t suggest you do… simply because it’s really REALLY hard to do so… If there was someone who actually figured out how to selectively forget a situation in your life, he or she would be very rich selling that secret to millions of people; So in brief, don’t forget… But the Action that you can really take, is to FORGIVE.

Forgive that person, forgive your self… Either way, it’s a conscious activity that requires both courage and determination..

The Fastest you do so, the easier it is (TRUST ME) to move on… And don’t story there, Move ON…

Blessed are those who give without remembering. And blessed are those who take without forgetting. 

Bernard Meltzer

Never Forget, cause you never really know what the future will bring and how things can change and you may be able to find an opportunity to have a decent CLOSURE that will make it worth it and that will be the last key to make you forget.

Have a wonderful week,
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

Don’t build yourself a prison

In my life, I have met a lot of people who – at several times in their life – felt trapped in a prison that they built for themselves… You know that feeling where you cannot move forward and can’t seem to do anything else.

Let me ask you few questions then, and see if you have been or you currently are one of these people I’m describing:

Have you ever suffered from a loss? Have you ever suffered from a bad breakup? from something that was so bad that it penetrated your every bone and you felt that with every beat of your heart there was pain… 24/7

If the answer to this was YES, or in a way, you can relate to that by remembering a special person if your head… Then by all means.. READ ON!

I’ve heard a lot of similar advice, and in different wording, but the substance is the same… Hardship will always happen, it’s what you do when it happens that makes all the difference.

I had a discussion once in one of my Facebook Live sessions, and 2 points emerged from that:

  1. You may feel a direct link with how much a person means to you and how STRONG / BAD you feel sad for their loss.
  2. The pain can sometimes be the only link you have with someone

Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world.

Eckhart Tolle

This week’s tip is all about what you should NOT DO…

If you read the previous 2 points properly, you would realize a reason from which you feel obliged to be sad for the loss of someone…

Don’t get me wrong, feeling sad and upset and all these types, is healthy and it makes you wash away a lot of things in the process… However when that activity evolve into building yourself a prison for the next several years… then it’s BAD..

Realize that YOU may fall victim of YOU… You may put a roadblock on your future by imprisoning yourself in the past… So Simply… DON’T

Give yourself enough time to be sad… and express it in every mean you can think of… in Public or in Private… But do STOP at one point.. Otherwise you are building yourself a prison… Built by YOU… to imprison YOU.

Have a great week,
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

Find your soul mate with your heart, mind and soul

I have been asked this question on multiple occasions, and I while I can’t really answer in a scientific way, but at least I can just tell you what I think and what do the ones I have interviewed think about this topic.

Let’s face it, finding something you don’t know what it looks like is very hard, cause it can be starring at you in the face and you wouldn’t realize… And that is mostly the case around the world… People want to find someone that they can’t define, and when they do end up by defining them, their definition is more vague than real… That you end up looking up for Mr. or Ms. Perfect…

How do you find your soulmate?

I had a conversation a while back with a colleague, she comes from a traditional and conservative family which means that meeting a person can be a bit more tricky since she will have a relatively small time to get to know properly at first before things are more Formal… And only then they can get to know each others properly.

And while that is not necessarily a bad thing, a lot of successful marriages happened that way, and from all backgrounds and corners of the world.

My response to my colleague was in a tips form, and here’s some of the points that we talked about:

  • You don’t really know someone unless you either have lived with them or traveled with them.
  • Sometimes the smallest of details are the breaking points in relationships, per example, you will never know how your life can become with a SNORING PARTNER… Are you Ok with that? Will you be ok?
  • When you expedite your life into years and years, and the fun is over… Do your dreams and plans are still aligned? or it’s simply one side of the equation and the other partner will just follow?
  • How much SOCIALLY are you pressured to get married?
  • and more…

A lot of questions more than answers are posted in such conversations, but the core and fundamentals of the answer are simple sometimes:

Find your soulmate with your mind, heart, and soul

This week’s tip is about that… So without further introduction here are some things you can start with:

  1. Find someone as attractive as you are (too much or too little will certainly keep either of you feeling lower or higher… which is not what you are aiming for)
  2. Find someone with mutual intellectual vibes… You could have a PhD while he hasn’t finished High School… that doesn’t really mean that you can’t click and won’t have mutually intellectual vibes… Based on your views and conversations and how you each see the world… it will say a lot of things about you.
  3. Find someone with mutual interests: You like photography? outings? parties? movies, books, sports… etc… It goes without saying…
  4. Find someone with the same direction as you: If you are planning to leave to Canada while he is planning to stay in his own country, or vice versa; or simply you are looking for stability while they are more risky type (to the gambling extreme)… then these pose questions that you won’t be able to solve later.
  5. Find someone with the spiritual element close to yours: You may be the religious type or not, and they might be slightly like you or not… DON’T COUNT THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO CHANGE THEM OR YOU WILL BE ABLE TO CHANGE… It’s a Flag…

As a conclusion, there’s no specific nor scientific answer… Just take your time, make sure you both are attracted to each others on multiple levels and the feeling is fairly mutual and not socially pressured.

Have a wonderful week!
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

Be Thankful for those who matter in your life

At some point in your life, you would wake up to hear that a dear person to you have passed away; It’s one of the most devastating times in your life to bear, to know that this particular person will no longer be physically there anymore.

Knowing that nothing can prepare you for such a moment, a harder time might lie ahead, which is living with Regret; Regret of not being able to spend enough time with them or regret of maybe not being able to sort out some differences that didn’t really matter… and so on.

 Family is not an important thing. It’s everything. 

Michael J. Fox

This week’s tip is about being Thankful for those who matter in your life.

The Feeling of being thankful, is that deep warmth that calms you when you are down, that gentle smile that breaks the walls of anxiety and that knowledge that life is still easier with those loved ones in your life. 

Being thankful everyday, creates a wonderful feeling that would allow you to feel indestructible. And would bring so much joy to you, whenever you express it, it could be a simple text message that you would send to your loved one, or the gift of time of you spending it with them.

Be Thankful for those who matter in your life… Every day!

Have a Thankful Week!
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

Ask yourself about the reason

They say of a story of 3 birds that live together in a nest on the top of a tree; one of the these birds goes out everyday and gets food for the rest, the second one takes care of the nest (house) and protects it and keeps it habitable, while the third bird just sits there all day and do nothing. 

One day, a storm came along and the tree started to shake very enormously, and the three birds were very afraid that things might not end up in a very good way for all of them. 

The storm became more furious, and the nest became at risk and the only way to keep it from falling, is that one of the 3 birds needed to leave the nest so it can hold the other 2. 

The first bird said: “I should stay, I’m the most important one, ain’t I the one who bring food and provide for this nest?”

The Second bird also said: “I should stay, I’m the one who take care of the nest, and protect it. “

The third bird looked at both, knowing where this would lead to and said in a crying eye: “It is because of me that we have a nest, each one of you can easily live alone… But it is because of me, that all of us are together in the nest… I’m the reason for this nest to BE.”

Despite the enormous storm, the three birds decided to stick together no matter what happens, and hours later, the storm ended… But the reason for making them a family didn’t.

 You Don’t Choose your family, they are GOD’s gift to you, as you are to them.

Desmond Tutu

The story of the 3 birds is a story that can be observed in so many homes, and in every family; We sometimes forget the reason that brings us together and can recall so many other reasons that would set us apart. 

This week’s Tip is about Finding the Reason. 

In the darkest of nights, and in the brightest of days, the reasons can sometimes be hidden in plain sights, we could chose not to see them properly or to ignore them all together. However there will be times where these reasons will be the cause you are will be saved. 

Cheers,
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

You can’t change people, but people can change because of you

How many times you have closed your eyes and wished deep inside  that someone could just change? and how many times you thought you really “could do it” and change them? was it a behavior that you didn’t like, was it a wishful thought to make your relationship become better. Whatever the reason was, we all did it, and more likely we will all keep doing it… Trying to Change others… 

The Miracle of Believing is Individual, is Singular, I wish I could believe for all of you, but the fact remains that you need to believe for yourself.

~Jim Rohn

In my upcoming Book, “Living an Influential Life”, I go over the power of Influence and how you can inspire and aspire others to change by simply working on yourself and building specific aspects of YOU that will make others look up to you.

Let’s pause for a second and think of the following… If you have been doing something in a specific way, and it was working for you… Would you want to look for ways to enhance it? chances are that you won’t… However when that specific way lead to a disaster, then you would be forced to change… But there are those times, when you are not really looking for way to enhance and change things, and suddenly, you see someone else doing it in a much efficient way, that you feel inspired to change!

During my line of work, I used to travel a LOT… and I have used to ask the cabin crew for requests in a very polite manner but really had no specific way on how to do so; Until one day, one of my Best friends, Bachar D.  who was more experienced in traveling than I was, gave me a great tip… We were siting in a restaurant and he asked for a napkin from the waiter, he said to him: “Excuse me, <First Name – that he could read from the nameTag>, when you have time, can you please get me a napkin.” and the waiter smiled at him, and despite how busy he was, he did prioritize getting the napkin for him in no time…

Now of course it may sound silly for you, but when Bachar explained this to me, he said that the fact that he mentioned ” WHEN YOU HAVE TIME” in the sentence, it made a huge difference in the structure of the sentence and the other person felt more respected, and of course this was a trick that he learned in the airline business…. and Ever since, I tried it and used it over and over and over and it works every time…

He really didn’t ask me to change… He didn’t say that my “can I have a napkin please” is horrible… he really didn’t say anything… he was just being him, and doing things his way… and Just that… Inspired me to make a small change in my behavior.

So the tip for this week, is Instead of trying so hard to Change people, Be The Change you want to see… and inspire others to change because of you!

Your Story Matters... By Bachar Dib

This post is dedicated to Bachar Dib

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Remember that Future Feeling

The worst or best feelings you pass through might be caused by past events, it doesn’t really matter if it’s something that happened an hour ago or 10 years ago, when it had an impact on you, it had an impact on you, whether positive or negative.

Even when you’re in Love, you are in that feeling of LOVING your self when you feel it, you feel that warmth, even by thinking of a MOMENT that was totally responsible for weeks of happiness.

Now I was asked many times about a specific topic related to Love, and especially how should someone treat his or her loved ones, and my answer was always as simple as this week’s tip:

Remember that Future Feeling!

You really don’t need to experience the loss of someone to start appreciating them,

You really don’t need to wait for someone amazing to happen so you can start putting more efforts into your relationship,

Life is unpredictable, because people are, and your chances are always the same, in Love, in Life and in Work… So Make sure you don’t waste today, worrying about tomorrow, and don’t just learn from your past mistakes, learn from the lessons you DON’T want life to teach you..

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Get yourself a reason to clean up the mess in your life


Messed Desktop BeginLet’s put it this way, if your life at the moment look similar to what my desktop does, then you really need to read this week’s tip 🙂

If you had the chance to read some of the posts I’ve shared this month, you’d first know that most probably the mess in your life is there simply because you though the combination of small issues that you have at the moment is harmless and you can always fix it just when you want to… or “have time to”; While Actually the longer you carry and hold on to even tiny things, you just don’t know how HEAVY this would be on you. (Check out the original post) and not also that, but it’s HOW you are holding on to those small issues that also makes a difference… (Check out the Second post on that point)

So let’s start this week’s tip, with a small conversation I’ve had with a dear friend, knowing that I’m an early bird, and love to wake up very early and start my day and become productive mostly before everyone else is awake, she wanted to ask for a clarification, cause she knew that it doesn’t really matter if I slept at 10 PM or at 3 AM, the routine is still the same for me… I still wake up and be as productive as I can be…

So my answer to her was simple: “I Have a Reason to Wake up to Everyday!”

Do you remember the days you were dragged to wake up in the morning to go school? or to Work? Different times, but still the same reaction… Are you striving to hit that snooze button so you can get an extra 10 minutes of sleep?

… Now let me ask you this, Remember when you had this exciting news to wake up to the second day, that almost prevented you from sleep where every inch of your body was just too excited… It must have happened to you at one point in time… Just Look it up and try to remember the feeling that you had when it happened… The Energy that fueled you all over… it’s called Motivation… and in this week’s tip, I’m calling it the REASON

Messed Desktop

You see, once you have a reason to wake up in the morning looking forward to… All the other effort you would put would sound very insignificant… Cause that same reason, is not your answer to the “WHY” you’re doing what you’re doing…

Just like when you have a beautiful photo of a lovely memory, you really WANT TO SEE IT on your Desktop background… otherwise, you won’t have the necessary motif to clean up that mess…

Messed Desktop After

  “Early rising not only gives us more life in the same number of years, but adds, likewise, to their number; and not only enables us to enjoy more of existence in the same time, but increases also the measure.” ~ Caleb C. Colton

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Stop looking for the Silver Bullet to all your Problems!

In the past 10 years, I have spent some decent amount of time coaching and mentoring individuals on topics related to career path, exceptional thinking and mostly reaching goals and enhancing their chances in getting to where they would like to go in life.

One pretty COMMON issue I’ve seen that still dazzles me in almost 90% of the people I worked with, was what I’d like to call “The Search for the Silver Bullet”

If you’re not familiar with the concept of the Silver Bullet, it’s a mean to kill a werewolf  in horror stories, where the beast can’t be killed except with that specific bullet. So we normally call any “Ultimate Solution” a Silver Bullet

It seems for each one, there is a specific silver bullet that would *in their personal opinion* solve all of their problems in like ONE SHOT. All Together!!! yes just One Solution 🙂

Examples of Silver bullets I’ve encountered:

  • When I move to Dubai / Canada / Europe / <______ Fill in the blank with the country of your choice>
  • When I get married (That’s mostly with single women from the arab world)
  • When I win the lottery (or get a big load of Cash that I don’t have to work for it… Pretty applicable to all of those who think that money is the solution to everything…)
  • and the list goes on and on…

Now let’s pause for a second and try to visualize the following:

If you’re feeling cold, you would long for WARMTH, and would crave to be sitting next to the fire for hours… When you finally do, you would enjoy this priceless and incredible feeling of both satisfaction and happiness crawling all over your body… It’s simply the best feeling in the world…

Then after some time… (mostly not too long after)… The same spot will make you feel hot and few more minutes, you won’t be able to stand it that you decide to move AWAY…

So what just happened? isn’t it what you “wished for”?

This week’s Tip, is divided into 2:

  1. I advise you NOT to set the solution of your problem (s) as a destination with no time-bound
  2. Not to Tie EVERYTHING all together, so there will Only be ONE solution… But instead divide your life into 3 separate layers (which influence each others but not too interconnected):
    1. Personal: that will include your friends, parents, society, love life etc
    2. Professional: that will include your career and job etc
    3. Self: that will include your dreams and hopes and physical and spiritual objectives etc

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression or do you?

You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression… That’s True! 100% and in any situation 🙂

This post is divided into 2 points, The first impression and what I would call the second first impression

The First Impression: They say the first 30 seconds you meet someone are very crucial as that someone would have a long lasting impression that would affect the way they listen, hear, see and accept you afterwards… Are you the Gentleman, the Classy Lady, the Professional, the Amateur, the Charming and the list goes on and on…

it doesn’t really matter if you’re meeting someone socially, or in a business environment like a Job interview or a business venture meeting, the rule of First impression applies. And believe it or not, small and even tiny details about how you look, talk or act can play a major part in what the impression is measured against.

The Second First Impression: Now i’d like to hesitate a bit and highlight that an impression is not an impression until it’s OVER… Meaning that you may get a bad impression about someone / something only to be surprised a little later, or even a WHILE later…

Haven’t you watched a movie or read a story, where there is a lot of ambiguity about Why the character was acting that way, only to discover in the end that… WOW!!! and then you repeat back the details in your head and realize he was fascinating in every detail??

Once I was delivering a Keynote speech in a regional Education Forum with educators from all over the Middle East & Africa region present; I did disguised as an Old Fashion Teacher, and started talking slowly in a very low voice tune… the first 5 minutes of the Keynote, most of the people started getting annoyed from the “quality of the speaker”… then on the 6th Minute, when the sentence  on my presentation was “Rule #1: Do something unexpected”… I Literally Teared apart my cloth  only to have a very modern & stylish cloths underneath, removed the thick glasses and placed blue ones, and the session automatically FLIPPED and after 40 Minutes; Several would simply say that it was the Best session they have ever witnessed…

So the thing is / simply was… I PLANNED My first & second impression… it was Intentional to engineer the Bad Impression and then To Unveil the Second one… and Leave the audience in a Surprised mode…

My the Tip for this Week… is Simple… Every Single Detail in you… should be DESIGNED in advance based on the occasion, from the way you handle your business card, to the way you place your hand in your Pocket..

And like I’ve written in one of my Books,

“Enter Like a Bride and Exit like a Groom” 

People always look at the Bride when she enters… And the eyes will be on the Groom when they Leave!

Have a Beautiful Week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project