Be Thankful for those who matter in your life

At some point in your life, you would wake up to hear that a dear person to you have passed away; It’s one of the most devastating times in your life to bear, to know that this particular person will no longer be physically there anymore.

Knowing that nothing can prepare you for such a moment, a harder time might lie ahead, which is living with Regret; Regret of not being able to spend enough time with them or regret of maybe not being able to sort out some differences that didn’t really matter… and so on.

 Family is not an important thing. It’s everything. 

Michael J. Fox

This week’s tip is about being Thankful for those who matter in your life.

The Feeling of being thankful, is that deep warmth that calms you when you are down, that gentle smile that breaks the walls of anxiety and that knowledge that life is still easier with those loved ones in your life. 

Being thankful everyday, creates a wonderful feeling that would allow you to feel indestructible. And would bring so much joy to you, whenever you express it, it could be a simple text message that you would send to your loved one, or the gift of time of you spending it with them.

Be Thankful for those who matter in your life… Every day!

Have a Thankful Week!
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

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Ask yourself about the reason

They say of a story of 3 birds that live together in a nest on the top of a tree; one of the these birds goes out everyday and gets food for the rest, the second one takes care of the nest (house) and protects it and keeps it habitable, while the third bird just sits there all day and do nothing. 

One day, a storm came along and the tree started to shake very enormously, and the three birds were very afraid that things might not end up in a very good way for all of them. 

The storm became more furious, and the nest became at risk and the only way to keep it from falling, is that one of the 3 birds needed to leave the nest so it can hold the other 2. 

The first bird said: “I should stay, I’m the most important one, ain’t I the one who bring food and provide for this nest?”

The Second bird also said: “I should stay, I’m the one who take care of the nest, and protect it. “

The third bird looked at both, knowing where this would lead to and said in a crying eye: “It is because of me that we have a nest, each one of you can easily live alone… But it is because of me, that all of us are together in the nest… I’m the reason for this nest to BE.”

Despite the enormous storm, the three birds decided to stick together no matter what happens, and hours later, the storm ended… But the reason for making them a family didn’t.

 You Don’t Choose your family, they are GOD’s gift to you, as you are to them.

Desmond Tutu

The story of the 3 birds is a story that can be observed in so many homes, and in every family; We sometimes forget the reason that brings us together and can recall so many other reasons that would set us apart. 

This week’s Tip is about Finding the Reason. 

In the darkest of nights, and in the brightest of days, the reasons can sometimes be hidden in plain sights, we could chose not to see them properly or to ignore them all together. However there will be times where these reasons will be the cause you are will be saved. 

Cheers,
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Samer Chidiac is a Strategic Innovation Advisor, a Business Psychologist, a Philanthropist, an Author and a Speaker. 

You can check his Books on Amazon, Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and check his Website for More.

You can’t change people, but people can change because of you

How many times you have closed your eyes and wished deep inside  that someone could just change? and how many times you thought you really “could do it” and change them? was it a behavior that you didn’t like, was it a wishful thought to make your relationship become better. Whatever the reason was, we all did it, and more likely we will all keep doing it… Trying to Change others… 

The Miracle of Believing is Individual, is Singular, I wish I could believe for all of you, but the fact remains that you need to believe for yourself.

~Jim Rohn

In my upcoming Book, “Living an Influential Life”, I go over the power of Influence and how you can inspire and aspire others to change by simply working on yourself and building specific aspects of YOU that will make others look up to you.

Let’s pause for a second and think of the following… If you have been doing something in a specific way, and it was working for you… Would you want to look for ways to enhance it? chances are that you won’t… However when that specific way lead to a disaster, then you would be forced to change… But there are those times, when you are not really looking for way to enhance and change things, and suddenly, you see someone else doing it in a much efficient way, that you feel inspired to change!

During my line of work, I used to travel a LOT… and I have used to ask the cabin crew for requests in a very polite manner but really had no specific way on how to do so; Until one day, one of my Best friends, Bachar D.  who was more experienced in traveling than I was, gave me a great tip… We were siting in a restaurant and he asked for a napkin from the waiter, he said to him: “Excuse me, <First Name – that he could read from the nameTag>, when you have time, can you please get me a napkin.” and the waiter smiled at him, and despite how busy he was, he did prioritize getting the napkin for him in no time…

Now of course it may sound silly for you, but when Bachar explained this to me, he said that the fact that he mentioned ” WHEN YOU HAVE TIME” in the sentence, it made a huge difference in the structure of the sentence and the other person felt more respected, and of course this was a trick that he learned in the airline business…. and Ever since, I tried it and used it over and over and over and it works every time…

He really didn’t ask me to change… He didn’t say that my “can I have a napkin please” is horrible… he really didn’t say anything… he was just being him, and doing things his way… and Just that… Inspired me to make a small change in my behavior.

So the tip for this week, is Instead of trying so hard to Change people, Be The Change you want to see… and inspire others to change because of you!

Your Story Matters... By Bachar Dib

This post is dedicated to Bachar Dib

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Remember that Future Feeling

The worst or best feelings you pass through might be caused by past events, it doesn’t really matter if it’s something that happened an hour ago or 10 years ago, when it had an impact on you, it had an impact on you, whether positive or negative.

Even when you’re in Love, you are in that feeling of LOVING your self when you feel it, you feel that warmth, even by thinking of a MOMENT that was totally responsible for weeks of happiness.

Now I was asked many times about a specific topic related to Love, and especially how should someone treat his or her loved ones, and my answer was always as simple as this week’s tip:

Remember that Future Feeling!

You really don’t need to experience the loss of someone to start appreciating them,

You really don’t need to wait for someone amazing to happen so you can start putting more efforts into your relationship,

Life is unpredictable, because people are, and your chances are always the same, in Love, in Life and in Work… So Make sure you don’t waste today, worrying about tomorrow, and don’t just learn from your past mistakes, learn from the lessons you DON’T want life to teach you..

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Get yourself a reason to clean up the mess in your life


Messed Desktop BeginLet’s put it this way, if your life at the moment look similar to what my desktop does, then you really need to read this week’s tip 🙂

If you had the chance to read some of the posts I’ve shared this month, you’d first know that most probably the mess in your life is there simply because you though the combination of small issues that you have at the moment is harmless and you can always fix it just when you want to… or “have time to”; While Actually the longer you carry and hold on to even tiny things, you just don’t know how HEAVY this would be on you. (Check out the original post) and not also that, but it’s HOW you are holding on to those small issues that also makes a difference… (Check out the Second post on that point)

So let’s start this week’s tip, with a small conversation I’ve had with a dear friend, knowing that I’m an early bird, and love to wake up very early and start my day and become productive mostly before everyone else is awake, she wanted to ask for a clarification, cause she knew that it doesn’t really matter if I slept at 10 PM or at 3 AM, the routine is still the same for me… I still wake up and be as productive as I can be…

So my answer to her was simple: “I Have a Reason to Wake up to Everyday!”

Do you remember the days you were dragged to wake up in the morning to go school? or to Work? Different times, but still the same reaction… Are you striving to hit that snooze button so you can get an extra 10 minutes of sleep?

… Now let me ask you this, Remember when you had this exciting news to wake up to the second day, that almost prevented you from sleep where every inch of your body was just too excited… It must have happened to you at one point in time… Just Look it up and try to remember the feeling that you had when it happened… The Energy that fueled you all over… it’s called Motivation… and in this week’s tip, I’m calling it the REASON

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You see, once you have a reason to wake up in the morning looking forward to… All the other effort you would put would sound very insignificant… Cause that same reason, is not your answer to the “WHY” you’re doing what you’re doing…

Just like when you have a beautiful photo of a lovely memory, you really WANT TO SEE IT on your Desktop background… otherwise, you won’t have the necessary motif to clean up that mess…

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  “Early rising not only gives us more life in the same number of years, but adds, likewise, to their number; and not only enables us to enjoy more of existence in the same time, but increases also the measure.” ~ Caleb C. Colton

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Stop looking for the Silver Bullet to all your Problems!

In the past 10 years, I have spent some decent amount of time coaching and mentoring individuals on topics related to career path, exceptional thinking and mostly reaching goals and enhancing their chances in getting to where they would like to go in life.

One pretty COMMON issue I’ve seen that still dazzles me in almost 90% of the people I worked with, was what I’d like to call “The Search for the Silver Bullet”

If you’re not familiar with the concept of the Silver Bullet, it’s a mean to kill a werewolf  in horror stories, where the beast can’t be killed except with that specific bullet. So we normally call any “Ultimate Solution” a Silver Bullet

It seems for each one, there is a specific silver bullet that would *in their personal opinion* solve all of their problems in like ONE SHOT. All Together!!! yes just One Solution 🙂

Examples of Silver bullets I’ve encountered:

  • When I move to Dubai / Canada / Europe / <______ Fill in the blank with the country of your choice>
  • When I get married (That’s mostly with single women from the arab world)
  • When I win the lottery (or get a big load of Cash that I don’t have to work for it… Pretty applicable to all of those who think that money is the solution to everything…)
  • and the list goes on and on…

Now let’s pause for a second and try to visualize the following:

If you’re feeling cold, you would long for WARMTH, and would crave to be sitting next to the fire for hours… When you finally do, you would enjoy this priceless and incredible feeling of both satisfaction and happiness crawling all over your body… It’s simply the best feeling in the world…

Then after some time… (mostly not too long after)… The same spot will make you feel hot and few more minutes, you won’t be able to stand it that you decide to move AWAY…

So what just happened? isn’t it what you “wished for”?

This week’s Tip, is divided into 2:

  1. I advise you NOT to set the solution of your problem (s) as a destination with no time-bound
  2. Not to Tie EVERYTHING all together, so there will Only be ONE solution… But instead divide your life into 3 separate layers (which influence each others but not too interconnected):
    1. Personal: that will include your friends, parents, society, love life etc
    2. Professional: that will include your career and job etc
    3. Self: that will include your dreams and hopes and physical and spiritual objectives etc

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression or do you?

You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression… That’s True! 100% and in any situation 🙂

This post is divided into 2 points, The first impression and what I would call the second first impression

The First Impression: They say the first 30 seconds you meet someone are very crucial as that someone would have a long lasting impression that would affect the way they listen, hear, see and accept you afterwards… Are you the Gentleman, the Classy Lady, the Professional, the Amateur, the Charming and the list goes on and on…

it doesn’t really matter if you’re meeting someone socially, or in a business environment like a Job interview or a business venture meeting, the rule of First impression applies. And believe it or not, small and even tiny details about how you look, talk or act can play a major part in what the impression is measured against.

The Second First Impression: Now i’d like to hesitate a bit and highlight that an impression is not an impression until it’s OVER… Meaning that you may get a bad impression about someone / something only to be surprised a little later, or even a WHILE later…

Haven’t you watched a movie or read a story, where there is a lot of ambiguity about Why the character was acting that way, only to discover in the end that… WOW!!! and then you repeat back the details in your head and realize he was fascinating in every detail??

Once I was delivering a Keynote speech in a regional Education Forum with educators from all over the Middle East & Africa region present; I did disguised as an Old Fashion Teacher, and started talking slowly in a very low voice tune… the first 5 minutes of the Keynote, most of the people started getting annoyed from the “quality of the speaker”… then on the 6th Minute, when the sentence  on my presentation was “Rule #1: Do something unexpected”… I Literally Teared apart my cloth  only to have a very modern & stylish cloths underneath, removed the thick glasses and placed blue ones, and the session automatically FLIPPED and after 40 Minutes; Several would simply say that it was the Best session they have ever witnessed…

So the thing is / simply was… I PLANNED My first & second impression… it was Intentional to engineer the Bad Impression and then To Unveil the Second one… and Leave the audience in a Surprised mode…

My the Tip for this Week… is Simple… Every Single Detail in you… should be DESIGNED in advance based on the occasion, from the way you handle your business card, to the way you place your hand in your Pocket..

And like I’ve written in one of my Books,

“Enter Like a Bride and Exit like a Groom” 

People always look at the Bride when she enters… And the eyes will be on the Groom when they Leave!

Have a Beautiful Week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project