If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter

One of the most common and fundamental change an individual receives after he or she go through an intensive Leadership training program would be how they look and perceive others.

When I was still working back at Microsoft, I remember a talk I’ve had with Naseem Tuffaha, a Senior Director at the time and one who truly possess genuine leadership qualities; Naseem was simplifying to me an important leadership quality, he said:

“A true leader can simply be a person who sees through the eyes of the person in front of him”

Let’s pause and reflect for a second on that statement and look at what this could mean in the real world… Why are we sometimes confronting other people because they have different opinions than us,

[from Wikipedia]

Mind over matter is a phrase popularized during the 1960s and 1970s that was originally used in reference to paranormal phenomena such as psychokinesis.However, it has also been used in reference to mind-centric spiritual and philosophic doctrines such as responsibility assumption.

This week’s tip has to do with accepting others and how we could react to that… using a Simple sentence… If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.

Just think about a conversation you were dragged into, where different opinions were stormed and yours was not the most popular among them. After a while how did you react to that… Did you leave the conversation? took a stand? insisted on turning things around?

In life, and in most times, we face situations where we need to do something we don’t like, and external circumstances might bring us unwanted surprises and challenge our tolerance. But how about I ask you this question: “When does this matter?” and when should you consider a problem a disaster and when it should be considered just an unpleasant surprise…

Well the answer is simple, and I provided it in the beginning… If you don’t MindIt doesn’t Matter 🙂

And “Minding” is something that you can control, so you can simply make something Matter to you just as simple as you can make it not to…

I’ve had a discussion with a friend couple of days back when she was asking me about happiness… and how she can’t control or “decide” to be happy… I told her the following:

“Happiness might not seem to be a Choice, but Misery certainly IS A CHOICE”

So give more time and attention to the things that really matters in life… No Wait! I can’t tell you that 😉 you need to review them for your self.

Enjoy your Week!


Image courtesy of Evgeni Dinev/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project


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