You are not the center, the center is You

During my path of coaching and assisting people, whether it was on a professional or personal level, if we were in a casual conversation or in a formal meeting, I have encountered a lot of similarities in what hold some people off from realizing their potential, and sometimes in what is holding them from doing any type of progress!

This week’s tip is inspired by the same conversation that I had with like at least a dozen of individuals (with variations of course); the initial versus of the conversation starts with something like:

  • I don’t know what to do …
  • My personal life is going nowhere…
  • My professional life is going nowhere…
  • I’m not the same person I used to be before…

and then it continues on and on, and at some point in the conversation, I would ask “Why can’t you do this… ” and the reply is always similar to:

  • But you don’t understand, how can I do this while THAT is still there…
  • I can’t focus on my work while my Personal life is not working…
  • I can’t focus on My self while I’m having issues at my work…

So to cut it short, here’s what I end up saying:

“My dear <NAME>,

Let me put it this way for you, there are 3 Circles in your life. 1) The Professional Life, 2) The Personal Life & 3) The Private Life.

1) The Professional Life: includes all the work related items, your relationship with your boss, colleagues etc

2) Your Personal Life: includes your family, friends, loved ones, LOVEd one, and your life with them

3) Your Private Life: which includes YOU, how you eat, drink, exercise, what makes you happy, and what makes you sad… etc

All 3 constitute YOUR LIFE, but let’s be realistic, those 3 areas are not the front of the BLADE of a BULLDOZER that you use to CRAFT your life AT THE SAME TIME!  in fact although they are interconnected and interdependent, they are to be dealt with separately.

Of course when you are happy at home, and you are in great physical shape, it would affect your professional life in a positive manner. Of Course, the opposite will affect (and would probably mess up) everything around you. But Hey! don’t make yourself the CENTER of the 3 circles, just understand that The Center is YOU. And you just need to have a mental separation to all 3…

  • You need to Eat healthy, take care of your self, EVEN IF YOUR professional life is not going well.. Don’t Stop Taking care of yourself…
  • You need to take good care of your personal life Even if you have issues at work
  • You need to keep the work related issues… AT WORK….

From what I learned from Successful people, they do that a lot, they have this amazing ability of separating things mentally, if they have issues at home, they don’t make that affect their responsibility and especially their communication with their employees, teams and colleagues… If they have an issue at Work, they don’t bring on the stress home to their family.

If you put yourself in the Spotlight of the 3 circles, you won’t get satisfaction unless everything is solved / working optimally, however realizing that the center is you, makes you work further on developing / handling each aspect separately and enjoy the benefits!

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

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You need to stand up and walk, before you can run

In my line of business, I’m lucky to meet interesting individuals from all over the world, almost everyday 🙂  and in this post, I’m going to introduce you to one of them!

This is the first Monday of the year 2015, and for some, the first day of the first week of the year that would change their entire life. You would wake up, filled with motivation that this is THE day that you need to make it happen…

Unfortunately for some, they are close to losing faith in themselves… As this is not the first Monday they have felt this enthusiasm, it has been the same in 2014, in 2013 and maybe since 2003? And some have been waiting all of their life for Life to Happen!   is it just bad luck? is it just that some are not DESTINED to be great? not to become successful?

To be quite honest with you, I haven’t always been that optimistic and enthusiast about life 😦 . There were days when I felt that no matter what I did, I would NEVER succeed. And the reason why I felt this way, is because I was holding myself accountable by comparing myself to “successful” people and underestimating the reason (s) and mostly the TIME-FRAME it took them to become successful!

If you take a good look at some of the basic things you’re able to do today with ease, you would be surprised how difficult for your grandfather to visualize himself doing the same when he was your age. Some things was NOT AT ALL EASY back then, yet today, we take them for granted… Even some of your favorite artists today, have been in business for years and some DECADES.

This week’s tip, is inspired by a conversation I’ve had with a very interesting individual, She’s the proud owner of a “Happiness Project” of spreading positive vibes and motivation everyday to hundred of thousands of people around the world.

When I first discovered the Quotes Gate  Facebook page, my first impression, was that a successful company, led by several team members, must be running it… Until I received a message from the owner, ASMA, introducing herself to me and initiating connection, and after an interesting discussion, I learned (and got shocked) that it was only a young Egyptian Student managing this page from her iPad! I was shocked because the page has more than 900,000 Fans!!! a number some very established media companies fail to reach with all their budgets and team efforts… 

 Driven by only her passion to helping others and spreading wellness to her community, ASMA is doing a Fantastic Job!

But there was a Catch to this story!

You see, based on our discussion, I discovered that this well established project, is only at its beginning, and have way more room for growth that you can possibly imagine, only the owner, was standing STILL and waiting to FLY. Not diving into our conversation and the details of the strategy I’ve advised her to do… You will hear about it when the time is come 🙂  I just wanted to stress on the fact that Every Professional was an Amateur at one point in time, it’s OK to Start somewhere and stand up, and learn to walk first… Then learn to run, and then JUMP…

It’s better to improve by 0.5% everyday, than to wait 1 year to improve 100% … if you do the math, you’ll see that improving 1/2 a % daily will lead you to being more than 600% better!!

Remember this quote by The German Philosopher and have a beautiful year ahead!

Enjoy your Week!

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He who would learn to fly one day must first learn to stand and walk and run and climb and dance; one cannot fly into flying.

Friedrich Nietzsche

Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Be the hero of your own story!

For so many, Heroes are those who save lives and fight evil, posse extra-ordinary powers and in times of bad circumstances they are those who make it happen for the sake of others; For me, a Hero is someone who inspire others in times when they need inspiration the most, simply by doing what he or she does on a regular basis, it’s their life story that give value to the rest. Your father can be a Hero to you, your manager, your teacher and of course when you run out of options, there’s always BATMAN and SUPERMAN 😛

Heroes represent the best of ourselves, respecting that we are human beings. A hero can be anyone from Gandhi to your classroom teacher, anyone who can show courage when faced with a problem. A hero is someone who is willing to help others in his or her best capacity.

~Ricky Martin

Now a Hero is not a person, it’s a role played in a story… it could be a science-fiction story filled with spaceships and lasers, and it could be a real story of a single mother struggling to balance between her life, her dreams and her only child. either way, the Hero plays the main character in a story / movie, he or she is the center of attention and where everyone wants to be them :)… And at the end, he or she is the one to be remembered when everything is over, probably not the secondary actors and certainly not the 3rd level actors…

This week’s tip, is for those who don’t play the major role in their own story, who are passive to events, and are not being proactive towards their future, but rather reactive… When big opportunities arise, they are the supporting actors, and when the light is out… They were soon forgotten.

Once my sister told me (She’s the one who appears in the main post picture btw),  that failure is a word that we invented, along with every other word in the dictionary, and it’s up to us to write our own story, choosing our own words; at that time she was an average biology teacher, and later on that year, she won the prize of Innovative Teacher on a national level, then on the regional level and reached to take 3rd place among 250,000 other teachers world wide. She wrote her story, the way she wanted…

Failure is a word that we invented, along with every other word in the dictionary, and it’s up to us to write our own story, choosing our own words. ~Yusser Chidiac

So my tip to you this week, don’t be passive, you only live once, and your life is what you make out of it… Just think of yourself as the MOVIE Star of your own Story… Try and get your self an Oscar!

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

The bigger they are, the harder they fall

This week’s tip is double sided 🙂

The first side is been said to emphasize that the more important or powerful a person is, the more difficult it is for them when they lose their power or importance

In his TED Talk about What Physics can teach us about Marketing, Dan Cobley, speaks about how brands can survive here’s an extract to read

So, physics and marketing. We’ll start with something very simple — Newton’s Law: “The force equals mass times acceleration.” …  But if we rearrange this formula quickly, we can get to acceleration equals force over mass, which means that for a larger particle — a larger mass — it requires more force to change its direction. It’s the same with brands: the more massive a brand, the more baggage it has, the more force is needed to change its positioning. And that’s one of the reasons why Arthur Andersen chose to launch Accenture rather than try to persuade the world that Andersen’s could stand for something other than accountancy. It explains why Hoover found it very difficult to persuade the world that it was more than vacuum cleaners, and why companies like Unilever and P&G keep brands separate, like Ariel and Pringles and Dove rather than having one giant parent brand. So the physics is that the bigger the mass of an object the more force is needed to change its direction. The marketing is, the bigger a brand, the more difficult it is to reposition it. So think about a portfolio of brands or maybe new brands for new ventures.

The Double Side comes from the same quote meant in the opposite direction, with an example from the great battle between David and Goliath.

Goliath, the champion of the Philistines, versus David, taking only his sling and five stones from a brook.

David and Goliath

David and Goliath confront each other, Goliath with his armor and shield, David with his staff and sling. David hurls a stone from his sling with all his might and hits Goliath in the center of his forehead, Goliath falls on his face to the ground, and David cuts off his head.

So the tip of this week, is simply to understand that becoming “Big” is never about the size, but about the impact that you or your brand can give to the world, so build yourself to become impact-full and even if your size is small now, you can defeat the giants by being focused and dedicated to your goals.

Have a Nice Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

The Night is darkest before the dawn

Let’s face the truth on something, at some points in time, we can be in a situation where our life seems to be falling apart… Problem after Problem, issue after issue… From personal to private all the way to social and professional… Nothing seems to work!

I have always had the same conversation with different variation on the same topic; Someone would be talking to me about how life is hard on him or her and starts listing the negative things happening in their life. And I would almost always bring out the same point:

“That’s not a big deal… You know why… Because REAL problems in Life are only health related issues… The rest is just a day-to-day issue to deal with” 

 You see, the well-being of you and your loved ones, is far more important than issues you may have in your school, workplace, in your social space or even in your house.

And I started realizing that whenever I (or practically anyone of us) would meet a dear friend, I would skim through a summary of the highlights in like 5 minutes and then start listing all the negative issues facing my life in like 25 minutes. But again 5-6 years later, If I were to recall a flashback to the same conversation, I realize that I had to pass through some dark times, to reach and enjoy the sunlight!

Just  when the caterpillar though the world was over, it became a butterfly

Funny enough, that Some of the really REALLY bad thing that happened to me at some points in time, worked great for me later on… If I HAVEN’T have had passed through these, I wouldn’t have taken some life changing decisions and I wouldn’t have reached to were I am right now… and Trust me I’m pretty happy with that 🙂

So for this Week, remember that whenever things gets darker and darker… The Darkest will be just before the Dawn…

Enjoy your Week!

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Image from the Movie “”Batman: The Dark Night

Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Take the time to look outside while the train is moving

I started writing this post while I was taking the train from Casablanca to Rabat. I had already spent an 8+ hour’s flight earlier that day from Qatar to Morocco and where something fascinating happened to me.

a view from above the clouds

For someone who travels as much as I do, you get used to particularly all the parts of the experience, nothing is as fascinating anymore. The safety procedures on the plane, the in-flight entertainment, “the annoying passengers”, the cute and adorable kids who makes your life worth that one moment when they smile at you, and the other small devils who make you want to stop wanting to have kids.

Irrespective of all the parts that collectively bring up your travel experience. There’s one element in particular I’d like to pause and reflect on this week, which is the world outside of your car, metro, train or plane.

The reason of the introduction is simply to highlight those of us who look, but don’t see… Who stare but don’t enjoy… Who watch but don’t enjoy, who can be so captivated into “capturing the moment” and worrying that the beautiful moment would be better captured on the phone / camera rather than in the memory. and Guess what, at some points I’m guilty of these charges. I’m used to the fact to use my mobile to capture great moments… That Later on I admire the image  but the experience itself doesn’t mean much to me. 

This time, and while the plane was going down to the beautiful Casablanca, we were still up in the sky… Above the clouds, and as usual, I held my phone and started taking photos… Worrying about how to capture a good shot to post online when an adorable baby girl who was sitting in the seat in front of me started “playing” a small game with me. She was probably little more than 1 year old, she kept on standing on her seat, look at me and smile then disappear, to reappear again in about 10 seconds.

This annoying, yet VERY adorable gesture, kept me from well positioning my phone towards the window, so I kept playing with the baby girl, (simply smiling and shading my eyes away every time was enough), and then I noticed her mother admiring her daughter… and she looked back at me and told me: “This is the best time of my life”.

The mother was not trying to capture that moment on a technological device, fearing that it will be forgotten. But instead she was not wasting a second of Enjoying this priceless moment. And that got me thinking…

I set my phone away, and tried to enjoy the view… and believe it or not… Those 10 minutes of admiring the clouds that resembled to snow mountains while the plane is so close to them is still vivid in my head than probably 100 other photos in my phone of the same topic.

So the tip for this week is as follow, from time to time, take some time to relax and look outside… Look, See and Feel  the moment… Because what makes a priceless moment will always, that associated feeling… and Not the quality of the captured photo.

Have a nice week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Live everyday with No Regrets, So you don’t regret it one day!

When I was studying Behavioral Economics, I read a very interesting analogy, about how “human” are different from “ECONs”  here’s how it goes:

Econs are mythical creatures that live on the pages of economics textbooks. They’re very smart, they can look forward infinitely, they can compute something called utility of objects, and they make perfectly rational choices.

Econs don’t care about emotions because they don’t have any. Econs have the ability of a supercomputer to make fairly complex computations in the snap of a finger. Human beings are people like you and me– very different. We’re different because we’re emotional. We fall in love, we sometimes do silly things, regret our choices, and sometimes we choose things just because, which is a concept that Econs would never understand. Human beings are impulsive. Human beings tend to make decisions on the spur of the moment. Human beings sometimes do things because other people would like them to do things. Human beings donate to charity. Human beings are also very forward-looking at some points in time, but often care only about the present.

So as the sum of us being Human, with all what was mentioned above, I want to concentrate this week’s tip on how to Live with NO Regrets.

Live Everyday with No Regrets, So you don’t Regret it on day ~ Samer Chidiac

I’m going to leave you with this small true story that happened with me:

Between the year 2005 & 2006  I was traveling locally in the US; Those who travel a lot can tell you that after a while, all the flights and travels will start to look the same… Same people, same faces, same issues with barely few details that change. that’s why I didn’t expect that flight to be any different.

The only difference this time was that I had the FLU, and although this might seem OK on a regular day, it’s NOT when you’re flying.

When the plane started to board, my head started to become more and more HEAVY…

I went to wash my face, and I saw it bleeding, I got terrified from the scene and even blood was coming out from my ears…

At that moment, I knew that I might be suffering from an internal bleeding and that if that was right… This would be my LAST trip.

Depressed… I went back to my seat, and placed my head on the window and started thinking… (I’m on a Plane, there’s almost NOTHING I could do…)

They tell you that when you become close to Death, you start thinking of Life… They are right… My Life was spinning in my head as a Video…

No Matter what you may think I was thinking… I wasn’t thinking about how much TV I watched, or how many songs I memorized; How many long hours I spent in the office… I was just thinking about the People who mattered most to me.

When was the last time I saw my parent? what’s the last sentence I said to them? did I spend good time with my siblings? I recalled my friends 1-by-1 and asked my self was I the example of a good friend? did I actually stood by their side in good and bad times? I was a Manager then, I recalled my employees and wondered what would they say if they knew that I was gone…

It’s a BRUTAL feeling, to see your self helpless before your end, and the idea that kills you slowly was that you won’t be able to  stand before those people and Express to them How lucky you were to have them in your life… That their Love and Care, gave your Life a MEANING…

Just when everything seemed dark and heavy, I felt as if the Collective Love and Care of those people … LEND me a Hand… I Opened my eyes and Said to my Self… “I WILL MAKE IT… and when I do, I will Change my life”.

That day, my Life changed… I started living everyday as if it was my last, with no regrets… Everyday I meet someone who matter to me, I act as if it’s the last day I will see him/her..

You see I never thought of that before, that OTHER people will give you strength to be THE BEST OF WHAT YOU CAN BE… To Defy the impossible!

And I do that Every day!

The Quote from that Experience that I live with it Every day since…

“Dream as if you’re going to Live Forever… and Live as if you’re going to Die Tomorrow.”

Have a Nice Week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Be the purpose you would run for

In a world where supporting a cause is a “click away”, it has become hard to REALLY tell if you would be willing to go the extra mile for your cause. You see it’s easy sometimes to support the hungry ones in Africa while sitting on your comfortable couch and pressing LIKE on a Facebook page before navigating away to do something else and never looking back, and it’s completely different when you would quit your job, and actually travel to Africa to work for free to help the unfortunate.

Although there are many ways to support your cause, from donating, to giving away your time and sometimes doing a physical effort to prove a point, (Like Climbing or running, etc). I want to be focus in this week’s tip on a very small and yet narrow objective… it’s called YOUR Cause.

We all run, some of us feel that life is more like a Treadmill, where you keep on running simply to remain standing still, but running has a lot more significance than just exercising a physical effort. Of Course there’s a nice physical reward to stay in shape and so, but the psychological impact that you would get impacted by running is far more great.

At one point in time, I have met a nice girl who works at the Bank I deal with, her name was Assia Y. and when I got to know her a little better, I discovered that her Silent Story was more Inspiring than much more than seeing a 1 Million Like on Facebook page; It’s plain simple, SHE RUNS… For Her Cause! The cause of becoming a better person, for the cause of making a difference, for the cause of learning, for the cause of ambition, the cause of aspiration and the cause of becoming successful. Assia knew that the 1,000 Step she took last time… Breaking her PERSONAL best of 10 KM, meant Career, Life, Social, Personal and much more… Silently… but Deeply.

What I always say to myself while running is: Never say I can’t.. U can and u will do it.. U will finish the race.. ~Assia Yassine

Inspired by Haruki Murakami from his book what i talk about when i talk about running “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional”

My tip for you this week, is to simply… Make yourself a Cause Worth Running for… And keep on Creating a personal Best! Every time!

Here’s a clip that I’d love you to see from a Movie What Women Wants featuring Mel Gibson & Helen Hunt

You don’t stand in front of a mirror before a run
wondering what the road will think of your outfit.

You don’t have to listen to its jokes and
pretend they’re funny in order to run on
it.

It would not be easier to run if you
dressed sexier.

The road doesn’t notice if you’re not
wearing lipstick.

Does not care how old you are.

You do not feel uncomfortable because you
make more money than the road.

And you can call on the road whenever you feel like it. Whether it’s
been a day or even a couple of hours since your last
date.

The only thing the road cares about, is
that you pay it a visit once in a while.

Nike. No games…just sports.

Have a Nice Week!
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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Look back without turning around

I’m not really sure when would it be safe to assume that one has gone through enough in his or her life so they are considered old, mature or simply “experienced”.

It may have been one of the really first articles I’ve published more than 13 years back, titled “Whom to take advice from”, and basically I took the scientific and logical approach, saying that “You shouldn’t be taking an advice from someone unless they are doing better than you in that specific topic”, you see a lot of married women take advice on how to enhance their marriage from their single & never-married or even divorced girlfriends (same thing applies to men), and a lot seek life changing advice from people whom really have no clue on what you’re talking about but they would simply care enough for you to be giving you a genuine opinion.

This week’s tip is about you taking the advice from the younger version of yourself, looking back without turning around;

When you’re back to your house, closing the door and you’re finally by yourself, it doesn’t really help to pretend that things are going well if they weren’t and instead you should look for solutions to your problems; therefor it does help to take a deep look in the mirror, or to an older photo of yourself, and evaluate what went right and what went wrong. And although your younger self have a lot to say to you, words can’t and won’t come out… it’s just that Look in your eyes… That would mean the world to you… Will it be a look of Pride or a Look of Shame of a look of indifference?

Have a nice week!

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Image from “Reflections: Portraits of the Elderly Seeing Their Younger Selves”

Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Believe in the Law of Averages

If you look up the Law of Averages on Wikipedia, you’ll come up with the following definition:

 ” The law of averages is a layman’s term used to express a belief that outcomes of a random event will “even out” within a small sample.

As invoked in everyday life, the “law” usually reflects bad statistics or wishful thinking rather than any mathematical principle. While there is a real theorem that a random variable will reflect its underlying probability over a very large sample, the law of averages typically assumes that unnatural short-term “balance” must occur.Typical applications of the law also generally assume no bias in the underlying probability distribution, which is frequently at odds with the empirical evidence. “

 This week’s tip is inspired by successful sales persons and one of their secrets.

According to Jim Rohn, the Law of Averages says that if you do something often enough a ratio will begin to appear.  If you talk to 10 people per example and 1 says yes, a ratio will begin to appear; you are at 1:10.  You’ll notice that once it starts, it tends to continue.  If you talk to 10 you’ll get 1.  Talk to 10 more, get 1 and so on. And in Digital Marketing, this is often referred to as a Conversion Rate and of course the higher that CR is the more successful your ad is performing or so.

So the key from these sales people is that you will need to keep moving and keep talking to more people, keep meeting, calling and exploring opportunities to increase your chances and to increase your ratio. And this way Mathematically, you can increase your chances of Winning more deals.

And further to that, we need to start enhancing this Ratio… to Make it 2:10 , 3:10 …

Even a broken clock is right twice a day. ~Stephen Hunt, The Court of the Air

The other benefit of believing in the law of averages, teaches us to ACCEPT that bad things would happen that we cannot control even if we were very well prepared and have everything in order. Like the Story of the Sower and the reaper

In short: You’ll face many struggles along the way if you are seeking success and happiness. If you are the sower, your seeds will get picked up by the birds first and won’t give a return. Then they will fall on shallow ground, leaving you with nothing again. Then they will fall on thorny ground and the sun will shine so hot that your small plant will die after the first day. No return either.

Then, one day, the seeds will fall on good ground and finally give you the expected return and success.

So instead of worrying on the opportunities that fled you, just keep moving and you’ll get the next one and the next one… And remember, Success usually Comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it!

Enjoy your Week!

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Image courtesy of suphakit73 / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Pack Your Bag For a New Beginning

On a day like today, exactly one year ago, I was packing my bag for the journey that would change my life…

To tell you a bit about my self, in the past 15 years, I have been on airplanes more than I have taken Buses… so Flying for me is really not a big deal, it’s more of a day-to-day experience rather than anything else, and packing for a trip was not something special… But that night was different… You see, I was flying OUT… Out of my old life, out of my past and especially out of my present.

I was not trying to escape from tomorrow, I was simply signing off on the last page of the book of my life story today, and start a new book with the story that will BEGIN tomorrow..

At many points in life, we feel that we need to start over, to experience something new, to change our lives and move forward to a brighter day, we close our eyes, and we pray and hope really hard for the moment we will open our eyes and realize that all of our issues are gone…

Well the big and most important point that try skip, is not the decision of starting over or having a new beginning, but it’s more of  the bag-pack we will have on that day… What will it include.

A Beginning by definition, is the very first starting point of “anything”; so on your timeline of thoughts, a beginning shouldn’t be the “continuity” of the past… but moreover a start of something new… But let’s face it, how could you FLY if you can’t let go of the thins that weight you down? how can you move on when you can’t let go of the things that made you miserable in the first place?

It’s that night where you need to decide to leave so many things behind, – Unfortunately, things to let go will include both GOOD and BAD – , pack your bag with the things you will need for your next journey… and Move on… That’s this week’s Tip 🙂

 Make no mistake your relationships are the heaviest components in your life.

The following is a speech from the movie up in the air starring George Clooney as Ryan Bingham. I kinda relate so much to this movie; and although it may seem a big harsh, it does have a lot of truth in it depending on where you stand right now…

How much does your life weigh? Imagine for a second that you’re carrying a backpack. I want you to pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life… you start with the little things. The shelves, the drawers, the knickknacks, then you start adding larger stuff. Clothes, tabletop appliances, lamps, your TV… the backpack should be getting pretty heavy now. You go bigger. Your couch, your car, your home… I want you to stuff it all into that backpack. Now I want you to fill it with people. Start with casual acquaintances, friends of friends, folks around the office… and then you move into the people you trust with your most intimate secrets. Your brothers, your sisters, your children, your parents and finally your husband, your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend. You get them into that backpack, feel the weight of that bag. Make no mistake your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. All those negotiations and arguments and secrets, the compromises. The slower we move the faster we die. Make no mistake, moving is living. Some animals were meant to carry each other to live symbiotically over a lifetime. Star crossed lovers, monogamous swans. We are not swans. We are sharks.

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Better Late than Never

I’ve published this post on Tuesday intentionally 🙂 … To prove this point.

So many times, we get delayed for one reason or the other in submitting a proposal, fulfilling a task, finishing a job and so on… We reach to a certain point where we cross the original deadline or let’s say appropriate time. And that point would leave us with 2 choices: 1) forget about it 2) continue and deliver on your promise “Late”.

Ok, so let me tell you a random something about your brain. One of the primary ways your brain keeps itself motivated is with a chemical called Dopamine. It’s the feel-good hormone that makes drugs so popular, but it’s also an important part of the self-regulating system that makes you productive. So the more you finish tasks the more Dopamine your system has and therefor the more accomplished you feel and therefor more HAPPY you become 🙂

Now pretty much what you would be feeling when you have just passed the deadline (whether you had all the right reasons or not), is a combination of guilt, sadness and anger. And mostly no matter what your decision will be (to proceed or not to) regarding the late task in hand it WILL be affecting your productivity; and it will be delaying so many other things, because a part of your brain will still be thinking and being emotional about it and that alone will be decreasing the energy you will have to fulfill other tasks.

So the tip for this week is simple,

  • Keep in mind that until that particular task is completed (even later on) you won’t be able to be at your Full Productive Capacity.
  • Sometimes you may be able to deliver more than expected and that MAY save you, and turn things around.
  • it’s Super important to ACKNOWLEDGE the situation with the other party, Ignoring that the mistake is not healthy and will turn back on you some other day! just Face the Music and apologize if it’s your mistake or share the reasons if it’s not.

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

Stop looking for the Silver Bullet to all your Problems!

In the past 10 years, I have spent some decent amount of time coaching and mentoring individuals on topics related to career path, exceptional thinking and mostly reaching goals and enhancing their chances in getting to where they would like to go in life.

One pretty COMMON issue I’ve seen that still dazzles me in almost 90% of the people I worked with, was what I’d like to call “The Search for the Silver Bullet”

If you’re not familiar with the concept of the Silver Bullet, it’s a mean to kill a werewolf  in horror stories, where the beast can’t be killed except with that specific bullet. So we normally call any “Ultimate Solution” a Silver Bullet

It seems for each one, there is a specific silver bullet that would *in their personal opinion* solve all of their problems in like ONE SHOT. All Together!!! yes just One Solution 🙂

Examples of Silver bullets I’ve encountered:

  • When I move to Dubai / Canada / Europe / <______ Fill in the blank with the country of your choice>
  • When I get married (That’s mostly with single women from the arab world)
  • When I win the lottery (or get a big load of Cash that I don’t have to work for it… Pretty applicable to all of those who think that money is the solution to everything…)
  • and the list goes on and on…

Now let’s pause for a second and try to visualize the following:

If you’re feeling cold, you would long for WARMTH, and would crave to be sitting next to the fire for hours… When you finally do, you would enjoy this priceless and incredible feeling of both satisfaction and happiness crawling all over your body… It’s simply the best feeling in the world…

Then after some time… (mostly not too long after)… The same spot will make you feel hot and few more minutes, you won’t be able to stand it that you decide to move AWAY…

So what just happened? isn’t it what you “wished for”?

This week’s Tip, is divided into 2:

  1. I advise you NOT to set the solution of your problem (s) as a destination with no time-bound
  2. Not to Tie EVERYTHING all together, so there will Only be ONE solution… But instead divide your life into 3 separate layers (which influence each others but not too interconnected):
    1. Personal: that will include your friends, parents, society, love life etc
    2. Professional: that will include your career and job etc
    3. Self: that will include your dreams and hopes and physical and spiritual objectives etc

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project

How to keep going when you think you can’t

It was already 9 PM when I got home after a long day, I had to do so many things before leaving to the airport again, what do I do first, what to start with, and I need to remember to get some sleep… Well, either way it’s not going to make much of a difference. So I packed my bag, prepared my cloth, took a shower and went to bed…  at almost 11 PM, my phone rang with the alarm and I may have woke up from one of the best sleeps ever, and It really felt that I want to get back to sleep no matter what… Even to miss my flight for that sake. But something amazing happened, I smiled and stood up, dressed up, grabbed my bag and left to the airport and here I am sitting at the departure lounge and writing this post 🙂

I Chose this life, and I’m happy that I did… I have a sense of purpose in the goal I designed for myself, and with every obstacle, with every sleepless night, I know that I’m getting closer to where I want to be, knowing that I’m happy where I am right now… and that alone is what keep me going day after day, challenge after challenge; that special feeling that I’d like to call: “Positive Thinking”.

In so many years and decades of research, science has revealed one very important thing about the human nature… We Are what we Think about ourselves. and whether you think you CAN or CANNOT do something… You’re Right!

I was speaking in a Regional Conference last week in Tunisia about Strategic innovation in Education, and I was on a Panel of experts of education, and someone asked me about the pressure that educators get with all the tasks they have to do during the day leaving them no time or energy to innovate, so I answered the professor with another question:

“Let me ask you this professor, why do most people feel more energized at 5 PM as they leave their day job while they have just spent 9 hours at the office WORKING? and why do students and teachers get this unique energy as they are about to leave while in the middle of the day, you see some of them almost fainting from the experience… The Answer is simple… It’s MOTIVATION, that’s the Fuel Professor!”

So it really is irrelevant what you may think about time, energy you need to accomplish a specific task, if you’re Motivated Enough you’ll have access to UNLIMITED energy or Fuel to accomplish whatever you want… you could stay awake all night working without feeling tiered, you would feel an adrenaline rush all over you… even if you’ve been overloaded all day long!

Now the tip for this week, is simply to use the power of positive thinking to give yourself continuous motivation not to do a specific something, but to be who you are… and being satisfied by YOU, will grant you an explosive energy that will get you places you can’t even imagine you could get there.

Stay Positive! Everyday, even when times are not looking great… no night was ever eternal, just like sunlight…

Enjoy your Week!

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Samer Chidiac

Samer Chidiac is a Sr. Strategist, Author & an International Innovation Expert.

The Monday Tip Weekly blog is part of the “Influencing the Life of Others” project